I've sent it to him
Dear [Name],
I am writing to formally confirm that I have made the decision to end our marriage and proceed with separation and divorce.
This decision is final. It is not an invitation to discuss whether our marriage can be repaired, nor am I prepared to enter into further arguments, pressure, intimidation or attempts to change my decision.
The ongoing tension within the home is having an unacceptable impact on the family, particularly our three teenagers. I believe that continuing to live together in the present circumstances is neither healthy nor appropriate for any of us.
I am therefore formally requesting that you make arrangements to vacate the family home and establish separate accommodation as soon as possible, and no later than [DATE].
I expect this process to be handled calmly and respectfully. I am prepared to discuss reasonable practical arrangements concerning the children and household belongings, but I will not engage in arguments about the relationship or my decision to separate.
For the avoidance of doubt, if you refuse to make arrangements to leave, deliberately prolong the situation, or if the atmosphere within the home becomes threatening, intimidating, abusive or otherwise unsafe, I will seek appropriate professional and legal assistance without further warning. This may include contacting my solicitor, Women's Aid and An Garda Síochána, and taking whatever further steps I am advised are necessary to protect myself and the children.
I would prefer that matters do not reach that stage. I am giving you the opportunity to resolve the immediate issue of separate accommodation calmly and without unnecessary escalation.
Please confirm in writing by [DATE] that you will vacate the property and provide the date on which you intend to leave.
From this point forward, I ask that communication between us regarding the separation is kept calm, respectful and, where possible, in writing. I will not respond to abusive, threatening, intimidating or hostile communications.
My decision to separate is final. I now expect you to respect that decision and cooperate with the practical steps required to bring this living arrangement to an end.
Yours sincerely,
[Your Name]
I am writing to formally confirm that I have made the decision to end our marriage and proceed with separation and divorce.
This decision is final. It is not an invitation to discuss whether our marriage can be repaired, nor am I prepared to enter into further arguments, pressure, intimidation or attempts to change my decision.
The ongoing tension within the home is having an unacceptable impact on the family, particularly our three teenagers. I believe that continuing to live together in the present circumstances is neither healthy nor appropriate for any of us.
I am therefore formally requesting that you make arrangements to vacate the family home and establish separate accommodation as soon as possible, and no later than [DATE].
I expect this process to be handled calmly and respectfully. I am prepared to discuss reasonable practical arrangements concerning the children and household belongings, but I will not engage in arguments about the relationship or my decision to separate.
For the avoidance of doubt, if you refuse to make arrangements to leave, deliberately prolong the situation, or if the atmosphere within the home becomes threatening, intimidating, abusive or otherwise unsafe, I will seek appropriate professional and legal assistance without further warning. This may include contacting my solicitor, Women's Aid and An Garda Síochána, and taking whatever further steps I am advised are necessary to protect myself and the children.
I would prefer that matters do not reach that stage. I am giving you the opportunity to resolve the immediate issue of separate accommodation calmly and without unnecessary escalation.
Please confirm in writing by [DATE] that you will vacate the property and provide the date on which you intend to leave.
From this point forward, I ask that communication between us regarding the separation is kept calm, respectful and, where possible, in writing. I will not respond to abusive, threatening, intimidating or hostile communications.
My decision to separate is final. I now expect you to respect that decision and cooperate with the practical steps required to bring this living arrangement to an end.
Yours sincerely,
[Your Name]
