I can feel the anger, disappointment and feelings of injustice in what you wrote. I've been there so believe me when I say...Money is important because it buys things kids need, but it doesn't raise them. Education is close to my heart but you can't learn or teach love. So your ex isn't going to "get it".

You have two sons who love you and you love them enough for both parents, grand parents, etc...you will find that is enough to go through this. It's gonna get hard and hurt but love is a salve. And your children WILL respect you and appreciate what you've done to comfort them and shield them. Trust me on this. It also seems that with breaking with the marriage, you are gonna lose a lot of extra stress that came with that.. a lot of baggage.
I'm sorry my response was so long..but you struck a heart cord with me. I wish you every happiness and success, I truly do.

I wouldn't really worry about the case at all. Clearly your going to get custody of the kid's. Pretty clear he has problems and can't handle the kid's at all.

That's a terrible situation to be in. I am sorry to hear it.

I'm glad you are getting away from him. I hope you will be able to get your life back on track

I have nothing but admiration for how you're handling a dreadful situation. Look after yourself & nurture yourself, and I pray the lawyer you get knows his ass from his elbow, because Family Courts are still too inclined to take a mans word of things from what I've seen :(