Would you ask a total stranger to adopt your young daughter? Years ago I friended a woman from...

DrWatson · 70-79, M

My first reaction is to wonder whether this "woman" from Nigeria is a scammer. (Nigeria does have that reputation.)

But, to get at your question, I think it is difficult for us who live in relative security to understand how desperate a person can feel living in a country like Nigeria. I can imagine how someone would get to that point, of wanting something better for her daughter, knowing that she herself could never give it to her.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

My dad was adopted similar to this way. A married wealthy family who couldn't have children of their own secretly adopted my dad since grandma wasn't married and couldn't keep him.

US is paradise compared to Nigiera where daughters are sold daily to get food on the table.

However with all the scams going on I'd need proof before I trust that a online stranger is genuine about adopting their daughter.

AbbySvenz · F

I’m sure you probably only have to send them money so they could do the proper paperwork, and pay their lawyers, and then bribe someone at whatever agency and then airfare….

Iwillwait · M

America would be like Heaven in comparison to Nigeria.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

It's very important to remember that, to you, this country has a lot of failings, but the decision to come here is extremely obvious to people who come from worse

Everything is relative and no entity is existing in a vacuum

4meAndyou · F

No. I loved my son too much to pass him off to some stranger who might abuse him.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Nigeria is a very corrupted country.
Everybody seems to be working a scam from government on down.
Every so often one or two come here and say they're looking for a husband.... ultimately it leads to them asking for money; passport maybe even marriage.

I could understand a desperate Mother keen to get her Daughter to the relative safety of a country that doesn't have quite the male dominated extremes of life there. But like I said watch out for the scams

Roundandroundwego · 61-69

During the Holocaust it was a thing to do if you were Jewish.

YourMomsSecretCrush · M

That lady obviously wasnt part of SW, otherwise, she would have been lead to believe that America was the fifth level of Hell. LOL

SW-User

Sounds like a scam

SW-User

She's probably a scammer. However, if she was genuine, she is right about Nigeria being worse than the U.S lol. United States may have problems, but Nigeria has many more with regard to poverty.

I couldn't ever separate from my children though, unless their lives were in immediate danger and it was the only way to save them.