You are employees, bosses, providers, role models, teachers, handymen, lovers, protectors, you are responsible for entire families, confidants, therapists, you are stay at home dads, cooks, cleaners, life coaches, accountants, you wear so many hats. I love being your rib, always being at your side. You are supermen but yet you know when to be Clark Kents and be vulnerable. I well never understand how you guys do but I am so thankful for all that you do . You carry the world on your shoulders.
Two guys can get into a loud, intense argument, even yell or shove each other, and then be perfectly fine and laughing together 40 minutes later. We often find the speed at which men can drop a grudge and move on amazing . We hold grudges for silly things. I’m not saying all men, and it’s actually admirable.
You say you want a wife and a family. But the moment you are required to step up and be the leader for your new family you make excuses.
You are obligated to do x y and z for your parents. You're obligated to help your siblings. You're obligated to keep up with the boys. You're too tired to actively participate in raising your children.
At what point does your new family become the priority?
When do their needs become more important than anything?
No one's telling you to stop having a life or being a part of your relatives, just know that your new responsibility is the family you created.
Why they can't just sit in a moment without needing to give advice, create solutions or just not listen. How can one make meaningful connections if everything is either transactional or a job?
@FoxyQueen I've not read it to be fair but that is one thing someone told me from it! Men take it on to problem solve thinking it's their job. I'm not saying that is the correct thing for a man to do by the way.
