Where do I go?

I am having some issues with a renter who is sharing a house with my father and I. We get into these blow outs because she feels she is perfect and never makes mistakes and I catch the brunt of it because she doesn't like me. I am an adult and treats and treats me like a child. Always threatening to go to the police if I don't shape up. Just petty stuff like that to try and get under my skin. Unfortunately I can't evict her due to not being the homeowner. Yet I don't know what to do for this to stop and for her to shut up.Not only that she interrupts me when I talk have also considered moving out myself but my father needs me because I am his caregiver since my mother died. I do most of the cleaning and cooking. She doesn't know how to do any of that. Maybe by venting my frustrations I can get a new perspective. Any way thanks in advance

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LavidaRaq · F

First of all check your state laws about eviction. Maybe even talk to your local pd. If you’re your father’s caretaker do you have power of attorney? If so you can evict her. Next time she threatens to call pd tell her do it, put a restraining order on her for verbal abuse and she will have to vacate. I hate that you’re going through this. Your home should be your sanctuary. I hope things get better.

urbancowboy · 56-60, M

@LavidaRaq Thank you so much. I will have to check with my father to see if he has power of attorney and go from there

Coralmist · 41-45, F

I wonder if you could write her an email, or a personal message and leave it on or under her bedroom door. Saying you really wish things could calm down for everyone's sake, and that maybe we can make just a couple house rules...no berating one another, and if someone accidentally makes a mistake or some minor conflict pop up, we agree to apologize if needed or have a quick, calm talk about how to go forward. Say " my dad is getting older and I just want some calm in the home. "
This is just an idea though.

urbancowboy · 56-60, M

@Coralmist Thank you for your help. She is very hard headed and she isn't good about reading anything of reason. I also have sent texts but she deletes those I might have to get in touch with a female on her level and she can intervene. Thank you so much my friend 🫂🌹

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@urbancowboy I hope you can find out a way to some resolution...😧🫂

urbancowboy · 56-60, M

@Coralmist Me too. Good advice and well heeded 😊

Gipeswic · 61-69, FNew

Why do you put up with her?
Get some advice about ending her lease because it may be a difficult thing to do if you are not the landlord and your father is considering it is his house she is in.
If the lease is still in a fixed term, you can only end it early with a break clause or mutual agreement. But do what you can to get rid of her because you don't need this kind of person around you or your father especially as you are his caregiver.

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Gipeswic · 61-69, FNew

@urbancowboy Good, for the sake of your own and your father's peace of mind. 👌

Levenrack · 46-50, M

@urbancowboy Yeah, get PD and landlord involved. Document every negative thing she says and does.

Edit- ok so I read the rest of the comments.
If she does not have a lease, then start making complaints to the owner about her behavior. Either she'll keep on going the way she's going, and get herself kicked out, or the problems should start to go away.

urbancowboy · 56-60, M

@Levenrack Thank you for that. The wheels are turning in my mind to do the right thing in protecting myself

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

Aww..that's a rough spot. If you already have or if your dad would sign over power of attorney to you, to take care of things, you would have a legal leg to stand on to evict her. But that being said, when you begin researching your legal options, don't let her know. People can turn unbelievably nasty when they feel threatened.

zaatar · 22-25, F

If your father is the owner of the property, I’m sure there’s something you can do with the right lawyer if you’re living there. Either way, you’re her neighbor and you can call the police on her ass for her behavior if she gets worse. Whether the house is in your name or not, you can still complain about her disrespect.

beermeplease · M

wait...who owns the house?

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

End her lease!!

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Thrust · 56-60, M

@urbancowboy

No lease - even easier to bounce her.

Situation sucks I wish you well

LavidaRaq · F

@Thrust actually even if there isn’t a lease it’s very difficult to evict someone. Every state is different. Hopefully she can see she’s better off moving out on her own accord.

Levenrack · 46-50, M

@Quimliqer You don't have to be verbal with it, a simple finger going across your neck motion, is pretty universal. 👌

Disclaimer- @urbancowboy This is a joke! Do not take this seriously.

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