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My son thinks I don't love him. It brings on the self harm feelings very strongly.

I worked so hard to even get pregnant, I had fertility issues. And the moment they laid him on me he's all I ever wanted. It's been rough at times because I was alone and grieving, I know I have had my faults, but I've done everything for him and with him. Every step, I've been there. But I'm not a good mom. I'm tired. I'm alone. I failed him. I don't want encouragement. I don't need to hear that I am a good mom. I feel like complete crap.
ScreamingFox
41-45, F
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Bexsy
I am in no way trying to lessen what you're feeling. My son went through this phase where he acted like hated me, even said doesn't think I love him

Preteen years were horrid
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Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
Do you think other moms that had to do it alone, tired and struggling in a world that is working against them, are bad moms? No! Maybe he's just having a teen moment, hormonal, puberty stuff. It's hard growing out of being a little kid and into an adult. The world doesn't make sense. He knows you love him.
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StarsMISaligned · 51-55, F
I know how you feel. I feel like a failure as a mom too. I made so many bad choices thinking they were right at the time but it caused deep pain to him and he never recovered.
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being · 36-40, F
Oh god 😔 sorry for this experience..
But I'm sure it's a thing of the moment, like a storm and clouds and not the sky, not what is in his core..
He's approaching puberty.. Be gentle with yourself
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Pretzel · 70-79, M
Foxie if he is around 12 or so - saying "you don't love me" and "I hate you" are part of the male experience.

I suspect he knows you love him - it's the hormones and the need for independence rearing it's ugly head.

hang in there.
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PinkMoon · 26-30, F
@ScreamingFox Van adventure?
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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@PinkMoon we lived and traveled in a van for a year. Across country.
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being · 36-40, F
@ScreamingFox foxy the van experience will be his superpower in the future. Don't undermine or doubt it. But he'll have to reject it first and find out for himself.
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
Sending positive thoughts. Being a parent can be tough. Been there myself. It does get better. 🤗
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MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Brings back memories; I remember having those kinds of son-feelings. Those were some rough years for everyone concerned. 🥺
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Jessmari · 46-50
He's just acting out. He feels the stress of the situation too, but is not sure where to direct it.
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MayorOfCrushtown · M
my oldest was the same way for a few years. she finally grew out of it. still, it made me feel like crap. fast forward, my grandson is basically doing the same thing to her. it stings.
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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@MayorOfCrushtown it stings worse than any sting I ever felt
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MayorOfCrushtown · M
@ScreamingFox thankfully, they do grow up........ and life will humble them. and then they will see all that you sacrificed.
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