My mother called me the other day, and when she realised I was out at 6pm, she told me to home....

You've gone a long long long long long long long way babe 😘💕
Indeed you have.

I've been following your story for quite sometime. Your struggles with mom and sister, difficulty with jobs etc

You've really gone a long way now. They're far. Of course things are emotionally charged between you two as, after such a long time of all the friction, there're memories..a lot going on. Think that it's inevitable to avoid the friction yet. It needs time to heal, the wound is still fresh for you to be scratching it.

Is it necessary for you to go back right now ?
Could you postpone this trip perhaps ?

And as about the marriage, one thing I'd like to advise you is to take it slow.
But this is about you and not your mom.
It's your decision for life. Be excited yet steady and slow.
Much love 💖

What a terrible dilemma for you. Having experienced the freedom in a different culture you naturally don't want to go back to being 'caged'. I hope it is safe for you to go home, much as you love your mother. If you tell her what you plan and she still refuses, will she try to detain you somehow?

Controlling behaviour is abhorrent and although sometimes it's well-meaning controlling love it is still control. If someone is going to be hurt over this, probably best it's not you.

Can’t change your culture. Can’t change your mother. Only thing that’s within your control is how you react. That’s the area you need to work on for your own sanity and peace of mind.

You are a grown woman and don't need permission.
I don't think you have to go visit anyone who'd treat you so badly nor answer their calls ,that's my opinion.

I understand that it’s a different culture, but what would be the worst outcome if you lived your life the way you wanted and married the man of your choice ? What do you see happening ? I get that it’s your family, but it’s also your life. 🥺

It might be a different culture but you might just have to stand up and do what is best for you.

I cut my parents off in my mid-20's, they were bad for me and my marrisge so, I never gave them access to my kids.

Wait you'll never return to the man you intend to marry or your family?

Are you not 31-35?

I'm so sorry if you leave do you have a place to go

U should just get married and send her a picture of the wedding

Time to cut the family ties

You are only still a baby in her eyes

She sounds old school

(((((HUGS))))) Time to go no contact