My mother called me the other day, and when she realised I was out at 6pm, she told me to home....

is she delusional enough to think she can tell me what to do when I'm across the ocean?? I suddenly felt so suffocated talking to her on the phone. You can't outrun the toxicity even when you move out.

I'm just so scared to tell her about the man I intend to marry, she's never going to let me because he's not upper class and has a smaller house. :( I'm going home soon (to visit my family) and I don't know how to approach this conversation with her. I'm so scared. She has thrown tantrums in the past over me talking to boys. She has sl.ut-shamed me, called me every dirty name under the sun. I'm 31 now. If she refuses to let me marry him, I'll never return.

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SW-User

You've gone a long long long long long long long way babe 😘💕
Indeed you have.

I've been following your story for quite sometime. Your struggles with mom and sister, difficulty with jobs etc

You've really gone a long way now. They're far. Of course things are emotionally charged between you two as, after such a long time of all the friction, there're memories..a lot going on. Think that it's inevitable to avoid the friction yet. It needs time to heal, the wound is still fresh for you to be scratching it.

Is it necessary for you to go back right now ?
Could you postpone this trip perhaps ?

And as about the marriage, one thing I'd like to advise you is to take it slow.
But this is about you and not your mom.
It's your decision for life. Be excited yet steady and slow.
Much love 💖

turningthekeys · 31-35, F

@SW-User thank you!!