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Were you brought up to say Yes sir/ma’am?

It’s one of those things I had never considered to be SO American until today. I never did it as a kid but had a bunch of friends who would address their parents and other adults this way.

My kiddo used to have to say ‘yes sir’ or ‘yes ma’am’ when she was living with my aunt and uncle. I’ve told her she doesn’t have to anymore — wayyyy too formal for my liking — but she forgets sometimes and defaults back.

Today my (very British) Auntie told her to do something and she said “Yes ma’am!”. Everyone looked sooo confused. The other kids had clearly never even heard that before. My Auntie told her she can just say “Ok” or call her by her name 😂😂😂😂
Yes, it is a sign of respect I was also raised to say yes and not yeah
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@Souls you've never called me sir.... 😠
@SW-User I apologize Mr.TheManHimself 🤫
Valerian · 100+, M
@Souls That's MORE LIKE IT, Young Miss!
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
I was raised to call people Mr or Mrs and their last name.
But never sir and ma'am.
But I spent about 10 years on and off down south and everyone uses it there. So I picked up on it.
It's funny when you call the waitress ma'am and she gets mad at you because she says she isn't that old. So then I say okay sweet cheeks.
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No it seems on the West Coast people take offense to that like we are calling them old. When I was in the south everyone did it and it wasn't offensive
thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M
It was required and my parents got very angry when I didn't.
Manfredthemanic · 16-17, M
Yes, I say Sir and Ma'am. 🙈
ArminArlert · 22-25, M
@Manfredthemanic Our father taught us to say that when we were little boys, but I stopped when I reached around 14-years-old. 🙂
No. The only people I call maam or sir would be strangers that I need to get their attention or maybe cops. Family go by their title. Teachers or other professionals go by Mr, Mrs, or Miss (last name).
itsok · 31-35, F
Yeah, and I still say it. Sometimes accidentally, sometimes formally, and oftentimes jokingly.
zerofuks2give · 41-45, M
@itsok you’ve never called me sir 🤨
itsok · 31-35, F
@zerofuks2give that’s right, subordinate 😏
zerofuks2give · 41-45, M
😑 @itsok
4meAndyou · F
Nope. My Dad was army, but he never insisted that his children address him as sir.
Jungleman · M
i never call anybody a 'sir', unless they have been knighted.
Raffiki · 22-25, F
@Jungleman me neither 💀💀💀
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I was taught to address adult strangers as "sir" or "ma'am", but never family members.
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4meAndyou · F
@SW-User Someone commented here that they picked up the practice in the south. I am wondering if that was part of the language that black people had to learn in order to be seen as respectful or subservient? Maybe not today, but as a historical thing?

I always know when I am speaking to a black person from the south on the phone when they call me, "MISS so-and so".
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@4meAndyou hmmm
Interesting
I wasn’t aware it was more specific to any race
Just common and respectful manners
4meAndyou · F
@SW-User Historically, it was good manners and common among Europeans in the 19th century.
Valerian · 100+, M
Most of my friends & I were raised to say “Yes sir / ma’am!”, “No ma’am!”, “Excuse me ma’am!” and if their name was known then: "May I help you, Mrs. Slipperybottom?” and "Do you need help Mr. Wetfinger?“

Especially true for Teachers, Business People, Doctors, Neighbors. In some cases here, if your parent knew the person well, using their first name of the person like Mr. Billy, Miss Janice or Miz Martha was acceptable.

So unruly Brit brats just say, "Yep!" or "Nah" with zero honorific for Adults!?
Raffiki · 22-25, F
@Valerian All very formal!

If a kid wants to ask an adult whose name they don’t know a question, they will often just say “Excuse me? ‘Insert Q here’?” Other than that I don’t really know. If they know your (first) name they’ll just say that. I’ve heard “(kid’s name)’s mum?” and had a kid address me that way recently. Lol. Other than that just a simple “Yes” or “No” is used.
Certainly Not but then, at my age, it seems safe to me. I get tired of conflicting zones when there are disagreements.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
I always had to address my Polish relatives as Pan (sir) or Pani (madam), but not my British ones. Teachers as Miss or Mrs.
exexec · 61-69, C
Yes. I said "Sir" and "Ma'am" to all my adult elders, even after I became an adult. In fact, I still do it even if they aren't older than I am.
Jlhzfromep · M
Yes ma’am I was brought up that way.. and still say it most of the time
No.....everyone-related or not-was Auntie or Uncle
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I think that’s an American thing
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@Jenny1234 very much Ma'am.
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Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
I say it all the time in general to people, perhaps ironically

 
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