Do you have narcissistic family members?

@cherokeepatti Oh yeah may he RIP
He was a very loving kind father.
Family members and friends always tell her that my father loved me and she was very jealous. She also made sure to speak ill of him when it suits her.

@RadiantRuby I'm glad you see that Patti's right.

Your mother created an entire scenario in her head because she couldn't accept the reality of the situation. Her jealousy over your relationship with your father made/makes her lash out at you and try to hurt you. She's attempting to make you pay for the fact that he moved on from her. She might even see him when she sees you, reminding her of her failure, which she can't accept. Only she knows what's going on in that screwy head of hers. After so many years being divorced, it takes a very small, mean-spirited, and selfish person to continue to speak ill of the dead. Tells me she never got over and moved on from the divorce.

Honestly, that's a woman you should cut out of your life. If you can't because of your siblings, have as little contact as possible with her. She's never going to change and will always try to find ways to hurt you. She's stuck in a pattern of denial and refuses to take any accountability for it. Victim mentality.

@SW-User Thank you everything you said made perfect sense. I will be reading it again.
A very good way you put it

@cherokeepatti Absolutely narcissist are very selfish.
They wait for that day when you need them just to disappoint you.

@RadiantRuby You don’t know how much I did for one sister and then when I needed my car jumped i called her husband and he came out and jumped it for me where I worked. She was livid over it and a couple of days later called me up and told me about it. But she had no qualms about showing up at lunch time when she was in town and getting a free lunch at m house and many other things.

@cherokeepatti She's very ungrateful! Did you end up stop being generous with her after that?

@Northwest I feel sorry for that young lady, I hope someone steps up and tells her that her behavior is horrible. Maybe someone should send anonymous letter to Dr.phil 😆

@DarkHeaven I understand the narcissist can give birth to a kind loving soul. I'm glad you enjoy time with your niece.

@RadiantRuby she’s so cool. love her to pieces.

@Coralmist My blanket response to all narcissists:
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@Coralmist That rings a bell, with the guilt trip followed by an insult.
🤗 I hope you find ways to heal
Be there for your self!

@JoyfulSilence That's my favorite part about being an adult.
Having your own life. I'm glad your mother was good. No wonder why your a perfect gentleman

@RadiantRuby

Yeah. I listen to my parents' advice, and then do whatever I want! LOL!

If I need advice, I come on here, instead!

Ha ha. Me, a gentleman?

I suppress a lot of non-gentlemanly stuff on here, because I want ladies to like me. 😁

The phrase is "ladies and gentlemen." Not ladies and jerks! LOL!

Ladies have blocked me on here! But that is OK. Half are nutcases, anyway. The rest are too prudish!

@Lilliesandlight Sorry hope it's not too difficult for you to live with him

@RadiantRuby I've had to learn to be very tolerant. And self reliant.

@AlyAngel that's awful. I'm sorry 😔

@AlyAngel 🖤

@bijouxbroussard Sorry to hear that. I'm glad atleast you are aware. I haven't discovered about narcissistic abusive till I moved out. There were times I blamed myself for her behavior

@SW-User Side note she divorced my step father after both my sister and I were out of the house because he turned the abuse on her. He didn't have his emotional and phsyical punching bags any more so no he wasn't around after we left :)

@uncalled4 Sorry to hear that!
It does effect you , did you end up cutting her off?

@RadiantRuby She kinda cut us off after a few efforts to mend fences, then she passed. It was what it was.