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This single parenting is so hard , how can someone manage

Iv been taking care of my 3 month old by myself he gets so fussy I have , no help no daycare nothing, I barely have time to eat, he wakes up and I don’t get time to eat if I do cook , I usually order out if I get some cash and stuff my food down my throat.. I barely sleep and my health is diminishing, I don’t know what to do , I can’t give up but some day most days I let go and I can’t even clean my house , my mind can’t think , I have no one to even talk to but my phone..I didn’t think this would be bad ,I try to be patient but I can get angry people say go to sleep with the baby but he barely stays asleep for long, he’s so gassy at times he’s up and I’m so exhausted even if I napped sometime I can’t do this , I don’t see the upside of this getting better and I don’t wanna go back to my ex whose abusive but I feel I might get desperate
WhateverWorks · 36-40 Best Comment
One good place to start is by connecting with your local mothers groups online. Usually every area has Mom’s group you can find on Facebook. I would try to work out with another single mom childcare swapping.

It’s also helpful to find mothers support groups just for the community and possibility of making friends who can become supportive people in your life where you help each other out.

Also a baby carrier similar to the ergo is extremely helpful. Ergos are pretty expensive, but thankfully there are lots of off-brands these days. This will free up your hands so you can cook, eat, clean etc. Your baby will get used to it and may even get into the habit of falling asleep in it.
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@WhateverWorks thank you for mentioning the ergo , I didn’t think of that but I will try that.. and nowadays it’s hard to find supportive people ,
WhateverWorks · 36-40
In general, yes, but mothers group specifically tend to sympathize with the things you wrote in your post. If you put your feelers out describing your exhaustion and need for help likely numerous women will reach out. @Sneakylink34

Coralmist · 41-45, F
Just remember a baby's only form of expressing their needs or pain or tummy ache, hunger, etc is crying 🙁 But their little laughs and trying to
Say words and giggles are so worth any of it. 🌻💙😌But it'll go fast, it will. You're going to be ok, just take one moment at a time. It's ok if the house doesn't get cleaned everyday, you need to put you and your child first. Maybe you can take them in the spring to a baby class , like music or reading, and you can chat with other moms too. You're not alone🌼🤗
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Coralmist that is why I feel I have no energy because I don’t let him cry I make sure I sit with him and usually. He’s very gassy and it frustrates me when it’s hard to get it out but I’m patient with him
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Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Coralmist lord if like you have to find which one is it but I enjoy my time with him, I had a very rough pregnancy so I’m so grateful I have him in my arms, that also helps me keep patient ..thank you
Torsten · 36-40, M
it gets easier. First few months is rough and you are always exhausted and sleep deprived and feel as if you made a mistake and not capable of doing this. But you are and i assure you, things get much better in no time at all
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Torsten thank you I appreciate it I hope so
Torsten · 36-40, M
@Sneakylink34 make sure you take care of yourself though ok
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HazyDayz · 36-40
Please don’t despair. It’s super hard the first year. I was in a similar situation.
It’s the hardest job ever being a mom but you can do it I promise you. Don’t worry about the house work. Just do the minimum you need to for things to work, like make sure you have a set of cutlery to go and a plate and a cup. Do baby’s laundry stuff like that. Everything else can wait until you’ve got more time for yourself. It’s normal to not have time to eat properly or shower. You’ll be okay. Just stay safe from that fella.
Starchild1983 · 36-40, F
Things will get better… he won’t be this little for very long. I know the days are long but the months and years really are so short. Even if he only sleeps for 20 minutes lay down when he does. Don’t worry about your house or cleaning. Look into a babysitter or daycare if possible. But maybe just a friend could take him for a couple of hours so you can sleep. His sleeping will get better… you just have to hold on…
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Starchild1983 man I hate complaining I do see many women go through , I usually don’t complain but I’m holding on and getting used to this.. it’s hard because our health does take a toll but but I’m trying hard
Starchild1983 · 36-40, F
@Sneakylink34 I completely get it.. I have been there.. well with a new born anyway and I had a partner but I really didn’t.. I did it all on my own and it was freaking hard.. when I was in it it seemed like it would never end.. but it did. He grew, he slept most of the night… he still wakes up at least once a night and he’s 13 now lol. But I promise you things do get easier.. I hope you can reach out to some friends or maybe make some new ones at a mommy group or something
SW-User
That’s why everytime my sisters got pregnant they moved back home.. and even brought their sleazy good for nothing boyfriends with them..you gotta be a super mom all the time
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@SW-User that sucks and yeah I’m trying
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Those first few month's is hard. U just sleep when your child does even if it is just a hour or 2
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
I’m trying ,@smileylovesgaming
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
@Sneakylink34 try and find some kind of baby music that helps your child to sleep
InHeaven · F
The baby part is the easiest part of the whole parenting. The bigger they get...the harder. So, enjoy now.
SW-User
where is the father?
SW-User
@Sneakylink34 XD thanks
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@CestManan and oh yeah I don’t open my legs to anyone either so speak for your younger self and the other females thank you
SW-User
@Sneakylink34 if u need someone to talk to you can dm me

 
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