Question for everyone how would you respond to this message from your friend?

Background I have a messenger chat with my three really good friends and the four of us talk about everything on a daily basis. We have been like this for about seven years now.

My friend K posted on her public Facebook profile page yesterday that she was diagnosed with breast cancer and has to start radiation immediately. I commented on that post, but then I sent her a message in our group chat. We are all friends with her on the Facebook page so everyone’s going to see it.

In my message in our group chat, I said K I’m really sorry to hear this, let me know if there’s anything I can do etc. etc.

She sent me a private message on messenger and says that she’s not comfortable talking about it in our group chat and that she’d rather talk about it privately with me. I’m

I thought that’s really weird and I was a little taken aback because the four of us talk about everything. we all knew she was going for her mammogram and there aren’t many secrets between the four of us. Plus, why would she post it publicly if she’s not comfortable talking about it in our group chat

I haven’t replied to her yet and I’m just wondering what any of you think about this. Do you think it’s strange or should I just like not be concerned about it?

It brings me back to a really good friend. I had who went on a trip to Malta with her boyfriend and came back called me the next morning and we talked for almost an hour, and she told me all about the trip, but she did not tell me they got engaged. An hour later, as she posts her wedding ring on her hand on her Facebook page and tells everyone that he asked her to marry him while they were in Malta.

It’s weird I don’t understand women sometimes lol

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Jayciedubb · 56-60, M

Your friend who got e gaged didn't want you to know before anyone else, like maybe members of her family etc. ..she probably didn't want you to post the news before she could and maybe make other angry at her for having to hear it from you, ..that sort of thing..

As for your friend with BC, first of all, condolences to all. It's possible she doesn't want anyone to jump to conclusions, or have to deal with all the concern coming at her all at once like some kind of press junket. Consider the amount of stress she's already under, and think about any white house press secretary at work, imagine the stress involved, now combine both levels of stress. Maybe she felt it might be like that

This is her journey. It's her choice how she wants to travel it. If you really mean to be of service to her, accept that and remain steadfast.

My wife completed her similiar journey of vital organs. It was 6 years of waiting in the dark. She kept her treatment to herself and would tell me at the last minute when she would need a ride to any of her appointments or when she needed meds.

As I understood it, she was using her appointments to get her many siblings involved in her care and to have one on one time with each sibling. I wouldn't know about it until they knocked on the door. When I'd answer, they'd say they were there to drive her to her appointment, usually in a 'matter of fact' kind of a tone, as if I'd already known.

Effective communication never was her strong suit. However, she made up for it with her manipulation skills 😉