Here is a question for you dudes and dudettes!

Let us say you are talking to someone. A love interest! The two of you have been talking for a few months and even act like a couple. Then one fine day, he or she says that they have been invited to spend the night with a friend of the opposite sex, which they then proceed to do. How would that make you feel?

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StarLily · 51-55, F

My best friend is male. And we live a few hours away, so when we meet up we try to spend a couple days together. The last time we hung out together, he stayed at my place and slept on my couch.

I really think you should talk to her. If it was a love interest, I'd want to know if he felt uncomfortable about it - I would completely understand and be accommodating. And my best friend, well... he being my best friend would be respectful of it too and probably stay in a hotel instead.

I think your feelings are valid, and hope she'll be respectful of them.