Here is a question for you dudes and dudettes!

Let us say you are talking to someone. A love interest! The two of you have been talking for a few months and even act like a couple. Then one fine day, he or she says that they have been invited to spend the night with a friend of the opposite sex, which they then proceed to do. How would that make you feel?

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

I wouldn't have to think twice I wouldn't like it.
I don't think online romances usually work out, but some do.
One of the things that people can claim,online,is ambiguity , they didn't think of it as a relationship ,but the other party did.
Not saying that's the case in your relationship.

otherspect · 51-55, M

@Justmeraeagain very true. The claim of “oh, I thought we were just friends” can be a lie, an insincerity; a cop-out.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@otherspect
I think any relationship should be fully defined as an exclusive relationship by both people's before you're a couple, that is my old fashioned opinion.
One person could be just thinking of it as a flirtation and nothing more unless both parties have defined it as a relationship.

otherspect · 51-55, M

@Justmeraeagain I agree, unless it’s been made abundantly clear to both parties that it’s a purely platonic friendship, with no plans to transition into something else.