I don't know what to do with my eyes

In a typical social interaction. When I am talking directly to someone, it's easy, you make eye contact. What do you do if no one is talking or no one is talking directly to you?? WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO WITH YOUR EYES?? lol. I usually pick a random point in space and stare at it. But this makes some people be like "what are you looking at?" It has made therapists think I am hallucinating before, even.

Seriously what do y'all do with your eyes if someone is not speaking directly to you?

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Magicianzini · M

@robingoodfellow It depends. Are you all standing in a group? You periodically look at the speaker, then the others, then away. You keep rotating these in a random order. Are you sitting in a group? Almost the same, except you can focus also on a physical object on the table, even tending to it at times.. if it's outside of business and in an informal setting. Don't do this in business generally though unless an impromptu situation arises such as phone going off and you need to silence it.

Is no one talking? If so, why there haha. But if there's a pause in a non-business setting (ie informal) then this is the time used to tend an object (device, book, writing, etc).

And no, don't look downwards or upwards except for a very brief second. Also, don't close your eyes except for one exception.. if you're trying to think of/remember something.. and only do that for a second or less.

Ananke · 26-30, F

@Magicianzini This is actually quite helpful thank you. I was worried it would be rude to look at my phone.