It hurts really bad. Please help on deciding what to do.

So for the past two weeks, I had a friend, a person I met on a dating app.

So she and I used to talk a lot, like for hours and hours. We got to know the vulnerable sides of each other, but then probably she started dissecting me, knowing me deeply, and I was properly telling her everything. She is somewhat a therapist of sorts. By the end of two weeks, I was really into her, but she had some other thought. She never liked me, in fact, and yesterday, last night, she told me that she's hung up on someone else.

And told me we should just stick towards that friendship only part.

But then we were talking, doing things really emotional things also on call only, not on... we have never met each other.

We had planned to go for a trip also, we were thinking of meeting so many times also, but then suddenly last night she told me these things. How do I get out of it now? Should I leave her? She says she wants to be friends.

And we used to talk for hours, like 12 hours, 11 hours a day, and we used to exchange texts also. But then this feels difficult. How do I come out of it? And what is your opinion? Should I stay in touch with her or should I just don't call her back, don't text her back?

I don't have people. I don't have any support system. I am completely by myself all alone. I had her but now I don't.

It feels very lonely and it feels very dark.

I don't know what to do. If I stayed in touch, if I stayed friends, it's possible that I would keep on thinking that with this person I've been completely vulnerable. I've told her things that I would have never told anyone else. So there's that. And how would it impact the future? Like she's hung up on someone else.

But then if I leave her, I don't have any friends, I don't have anyone to talk to. I won't get any notifications, I won't wait for someone to call me. Because I don't have anyone else. That will be more lonely for me.

I am not in a very healthy space.

awildsheepschase

I worry about online dating, especially when it is never in person, even though this applies to people in person too. They misplace emotions in need, creating a sense of co-dependency that's not healthy. We can make ourselves vulnerable to people we almost know we can never be with because it's safer, and your fear of no notification and being alone almost makes this ring true to me in how I read your words more.

There's a time to work on yourself, be alone, even if it's lonely, and another time to connect with people. I'm sure the emotional connection was beautiful and needed but it sounds to me, you made yourself dependent upon them when you needed to learn yourself more.

bill117 · 46-50, M

@awildsheepschase The emotions ran its course. The dependency is something you never expect even in real life. It happened to me.

I have been alone for most part of my life. I learned everything there is about myself. Being alone and living is healthy but till a certain point is what felt. Beyond that it becomes a cause for concern.

And that's when I looked for someone. It felt right with her. The connection and emotional depth. Thr calls and conversations were mature enough. How else would I have taken this? How else would I have moved ahead? Is it wrong of me to look for someone to be with?