It hurts really bad. Please help on deciding what to do. So for the past two weeks, I had a...

Elisbch · M

That's what they do.

Put her behind you and don't look back... ever. You'll regain some peace.

So she and I used to talk a lot, like for hours and hours. We got to know the vulnerable sides of each other, but then probably she started dissecting me, knowing me deeply, and I was properly telling her everything.

This is a trick they use.... only for their advantage.

She is somewhat a therapist of sorts.

No she's not, she's a user. The trick is evidence of that.

By the end of two weeks, I was really into her, but she had some other thought. She never liked me, in fact, and yesterday, last night, she told me that she's hung up on someone else

You got caught up while in a vulnerable state, she worked you.

Here's your proof in all the above.

Sorry it happened. Move on.

LilyoftheValley · F

This happens many times between people getting to know each other. At first, there is the initial spark and as you start revealing things about each other, or manifest certain behavior, sometimes there are things that may cause a disconnect. In fairness to both of you, I think judgment should not be made on who is right or wrong, but perhaps understand and accept that there came a point where the connection was severed. Perhaps she realized you are not as compatible to her as she first thought you might be or she was unsure which person (you or the other man) would be more compatible to her but the fact that she says she is hung up on this other man and decided to end what she had wth you is indication that she has already made up her mind.

I would suggest that for your healing to begin that you initiate a closure, no longer contact her and move on. It will take some time for the anger or hurt to pass, but it will. Look at it on the bright side, you really do not want a person in your life who cannot love you the same way or in any way at all. As for friends, go out more and socialize, take on new hobbies where you may meet people with similar interests to yours. Online friendships and romances are not the same as friendships and romances created out in the real world. We only get to truly know a person by being with them, seeing how they interact with family, friends and how we manage and react to the daily struggles in life. I wish you good luck and happiness.

awildsheepschase

I worry about online dating, especially when it is never in person, even though this applies to people in person too. They misplace emotions in need, creating a sense of co-dependency that's not healthy. We can make ourselves vulnerable to people we almost know we can never be with because it's safer, and your fear of no notification and being alone almost makes this ring true to me in how I read your words more.

There's a time to work on yourself, be alone, even if it's lonely, and another time to connect with people. I'm sure the emotional connection was beautiful and needed but it sounds to me, you made yourself dependent upon them when you needed to learn yourself more.

tobynshorty · 51-55, F

If you are looking for a relationship then you have to pull away and look for s decent and fun person to be with.

dale74 · M

Sounds like you've been friend zoned

helenoftroy2000 · 22-25, F

i would say leave him and move on

redback · 56-60, M

Try no contact and see if she chases you if not you will be better off

SomeMichGuy · M

She might have panicked and made up this other person.

YoMomma ·

Is she even a real person? Did she live video chat with you or might she even be a catfish? 😏 just don't send her any money.. there’s lots of fat romance scammers out there 😒

Neoerectus · M

She is a manipulator in practice, even if not in intent. Cut her away. This is a tried and true scheme. Run, dont walk, away.