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When you notice people you cared become distant from you, what do you do? And what are your thoughts?

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Piper · 61-69, F
Usually, I reach out a couple of times just be sure that they didn't just miss a phone call or email. That's happened. I'm talking about long-time, once close friends.

If I don't hear back from them, I just accept that they aren't my friend anymore. I wonder why...what changed. I stop 'reaching out', even though I think of them and wonder how they are. It hurts.
@Piper it does
Piper · 61-69, F
@Lovebird For sure.
Strictsir · 26-30, MNew
Distance yourself also, and give as good as you get is my advice to you. Of course follow people up with a call or email etc. but leave it up to them to respond and don't bother with them if they're too wrapped up in their own worlds to make the effort. Some people do change their associations over time, but true friends will always be there for you.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
So becoming distant in my head means they need space. If I notice it's gone on a while I will reach out.
If I don't get a response even if it's just a friendly message or I need some time. I kind of just let people be.
I can honestly say it hurts to lose friends and relationships, but I learned that you can't force anything or anyone to stay.

I definitely think about where things went wrong, but overtime than questioning subsides.
ToLivePeacefully · 31-35, M
You said "
You Cared
".

So I take it as they didn't, it's just me who cared.

What else can I do, they have made their choice. If It's make them happy I'll let them be because I cared.
@ToLivePeacefully who knows if they do but they become distant
ToLivePeacefully · 31-35, M
@Lovebird Let them be.
Tumbleweed · F
It's happened to me several times so the way I look at it, if I'm not worth an explanation, then they're not worth my time in questioning it. So I completely ignore them and look right past them like they don't even exist.
People change and move on. I appreciate the season we were in and that’s it.
@Pinkstarburst I wished I could do that without feeling bad
@Lovebird It’s just how I grew up. People come and go. You love on them in that moment.
@Pinkstarburst I think that's a healthy way to acknowledge reality.
taneegoan · 31-35, F
I silently moved on from his life , I feel that myself can't be really forever for any one so one day i have to move that's what i have in my mind always since i get connected with her /him
thepeculiarpanda · 36-40, M
I just move on at this point. I've had so many people come and go in my life that it just feels routine at this point.
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@Darksideinthenight2 yes and then there are people that one doesn't need to be in touch that much and still are good friends
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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
Give them the space they need. We all need it from time to time.
@PerfectionOfTheHeart many times they just walk away permanently
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@Lovebird Mmhmm. I’ve found that to be true. I used to fight for them to stay, but that just prolonged and amplified the pain that was to follow.

The last thing you can do is let that action sit with you for too long. People leave for a number of reasons, and more often than not it has nothing to do with us. We just happen to be on the receiving end of the outcome.
@PerfectionOfTheHeart wise words, thank you a lot
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I do nothing. I think they got tired of my indifference and that it's always them reaching out first.
@CrazyMusicLover do you feel sad about it
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Lovebird Yes, always but I know that it's my fault.
@CrazyMusicLover Curious… but why did they have to always reach out first?
Prettybratbi1tch · 26-30, F
Mirror them tbh
Examine your behaviour
@CGS1984 yes, because without intending to it could be because of something you said or did
YoMomma ·
Well either they are just busy or they are avoiding you because of a secret dislike
@YoMomma or focused on something they like more.
YoMomma ·
@Lovebird same difference?
Kiesel · 56-60, M
Reciprocate the treatment and put up guards
thrash · 31-35, M
i write their name(s) on my deathnote
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