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Shoes or no shoes?

Poll - Total Votes: 32
Don't be a weirdo - put your shoes on
Just be yourself - get out of the car in bare feet
Other - explain in comments
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EDIT
For those of you wondering..
I ignored my boyfriend, did the sensible thing and exited the car wearing shoes. I entered the house wearing them and I'm still wearing them while typing this update in the bathroom 😂

I'm currently driving with my boyfriend to his parents house to stay with his family for christmas.
While we've been in the car I've had no shoes on because I'm just more comfortable that way. I'm always more relaxed when I'm barefoot and when I'm anxious I have this need to be able to feel the floor or ground or whatever. Kind of crazy but stems from a therapist suggesting grounding exercises years ago when I was suffering from anxiety.
Anyway, I'm super nervous about meeting boyfriends family for the first time. Shoes have been off for the whole journey and I had a quick walk around outside in bare feet to ground and calm myself when we stopped at the service station.
We're getting close to his parents house now and boyfriend has said that I should just leave my shoes off when we arrive because I'll be more relaxed. We'll be parked in the driveway and I'll only be going from the car to the house. He reckons nobody will care but I don't want to make a bad impression. They're not even a shoes off at the door kind of house so me exiting the car sans shoes in December is going to be uber weird!
What should I do?
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HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
I love going barefoot too, but honestly I’d be more comfortable wearing shoes from the car into the house for an initial meeting. Then I’d take them off.
Psychologykate · 41-45, F
@HeavenBesideYou this was my first thought to be honest and probably what I'll do. But boyfriend was like "just be yourself". I told him "I'm probably gonna have a bloody epileptic fit in front of your family at some point this week. Don't you think that's enough of me being myself?"
We decided I should poll you guys and see what the suggestion was 😂
You get exactly one chance to make a first impression. You already know not wearing shoes "is going to be uber weird."
Wear them to the door and take them off once you're inside. Nobody will think twice, even if they aren't a shoes off at the door kind of house.
Cantsayno · 56-60, M
I would put my shoes on to meet them. Then when you feel comfortable ask them if they mind if your barefoot.
I completely understand the barefoot releasing tension.
KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M
I imagine his advice is going to be better than anything we say since he actually knows them... so yeah, go for it
Egg01 · 56-60, F
Other - whatever works for you but mostly shoes for me as I live in Scotland 🤣
Psychologykate · 41-45, F
@Egg01 we're in the UK so yeah it's pretty cold here too 😂
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
Since I drive barefoot, it wouldn't matter too much. What I would do is get out of the car barefoot and put your shoes on for at least a few minutes and if you see that everything is cool with his family, then go ahead and take them off.
carolinehugz · 46-50, F
Shoe dillemas aside did the first meeting go ok?

It's always weird arriving at a someone's house and not knowing if they wear shoes or not indoors anyway😕
@carolinehugz I found it interesting in moving across the country that here in northwest more people take shoes off inside a home than i found to be the case in the east.
SandraB · 41-45, F
Aww honey my only advice is to do what makes you feel the most comfortable and be happy.
Psychologykate · 41-45, F
@SandraB I ended up wearing my shoes. And keeping them on in the house for a while. But I have been barefoot in the house most of today. Nobody cares. Boyfriends sister is also barefoot indoors and boyfriend and bro in law are in socks.
SandraB · 41-45, F
@Psychologykate That's good and would appear so much more "normal" to wake up and remain barefoot. I do tend to find a barefoot girls and socked feet boys split here too.
Psychologykate · 41-45, F
@SandraB strange isn't it. I wonder why that is?
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
It's also worth mentioning, that many public places have a no bare feet policy.
Adec757 · 51-55, M
Did you do indoor p e in bare feet or plimsolls?
Psychologykate · 41-45, F
@Adec757 bare feet as it was the rule. But I don't see how that's relevant here...
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
It's your decision. :-)
Abbenthewarwolf · 18-21, M
Noooooo shoes.
I have a foot/flip flop fetish

take off those shoes!

 
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