Have you ever had to end a friendship with someone?
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Yes. In the 90s I deleted a few numbers of people I had been keeping around because we’d worked together, or because I’d known them through my late husband, or through church, etc. Some of them were really [b]not[/b] particularly nice to me. I would get a knot in my stomach when they reached out, and I let that be my yardstick for staying in touch; if being with them brought unnecessary stress, it was time to say "adieu". 😌
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard this 👆🏽💯
bijouxbroussard · F
@Hanginginthere Thank you for BC. 🙏🏽
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Justmeraeagain if he really is that mean I’m not sure you ghosting him would bother him
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Hanginginthere He most likely doesn't,it's just a good story,that's what narcissistic people do make you the bad guy in every story.
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Justmeraeagain wouldn’t bother him typo my bad
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
Really · 80-89, M
Yes. I met a guy through work and we had instant (not romantic) total rapport. He was vibrant & enthusiastic about everything. He introduced me to an active, exciting hobby. We had a couple of great fun experiences with that; then boom! He went raving ballistic with me over something completely trivial. I soon realized he was manic/depressive (my 'diagnosis'). I couldn't handle his frightening mood swings and I had to kill the friendship.
I think he must have had later treatment: Years afterward I learned he had moved to a small prosperous island, where he became a prominent member of the community, with local events named after him. I think back on the time when I first met him; how invigorating he was and what a fantastic friend he might have been. Maybe too good; on his good days he could have led me almost anywhere.
I think he must have had later treatment: Years afterward I learned he had moved to a small prosperous island, where he became a prominent member of the community, with local events named after him. I think back on the time when I first met him; how invigorating he was and what a fantastic friend he might have been. Maybe too good; on his good days he could have led me almost anywhere.
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Really do you regret ending the friendship? Since he turned his life around
Really · 80-89, M
@Hanginginthere I can be nostalgic for the rapport we had; spontaneously laughing together because we shared an unspoken, humorous thought about some passing thing we saw. It was like a sort of telepathy.
But I think the friendship would have become all-consuming, and he would have played the alpha male. No, I'm glad I walked away from it - and I doubt that he ever thought of me again, after a few days. Our paths didn't cross. When I knew him he was always short of money and I would lend him some till pay day; but later I know he came into a big windfall and became a much respected leader in community life. What I know about that I've read online. He's no longer alive, by the way. Would have been in his mid 80s by now.
But I think the friendship would have become all-consuming, and he would have played the alpha male. No, I'm glad I walked away from it - and I doubt that he ever thought of me again, after a few days. Our paths didn't cross. When I knew him he was always short of money and I would lend him some till pay day; but later I know he came into a big windfall and became a much respected leader in community life. What I know about that I've read online. He's no longer alive, by the way. Would have been in his mid 80s by now.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
yeah, often. right now everyone I know is super awesome, each of my friends are unique, kind, intelligent people but to end up like this I had to let go of MANY people on the way. I won't hold on to someone just because they're family or I've known them for a long time. do they bring something interesting to my life?
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Fungirlmmm same for me but it was a female
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@DarlingSelah have you ever betrayed someone?
@Hanginginthere hm. I don't think so
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@DarlingSelah good
Justenjoyit · 56-60, M
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Justenjoyit I think those hurt equally so, sometimes more painful
Raaii · 22-25, F
[c=800000] hardly from my side
When they want to go I just let them go
I can't pester
It's hard to end for me
It's very sad
But at the end I realise they never cared and ths people around me who say you're the mistake
I felt like I was the worse all the time
I don't deserve anyone
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When they want to go I just let them go
I can't pester
It's hard to end for me
It's very sad
But at the end I realise they never cared and ths people around me who say you're the mistake
I felt like I was the worse all the time
I don't deserve anyone
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Yes. When I saw their intention. My peace is more important and they don’t deserve me.
Unhinged · 100+
NEIN
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Unhinged what?
Unhinged · 100+
Lilnonames · F
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Lilnonames on here or in real life?
Lilnonames · F
@Hanginginthere both lol
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
@Lilnonames oh! 👀