@TurtleEclipseOfTheHeart I’m sorry. I guess you’re straight so that just doesn’t work. I had a female therapist who was emotionally close to me and that was the best thing ever. Lol.
I hate to say it, but all of these things to an extent. A person’s mind is for most attractive, but also that attraction interweaves with their aesthetic. their résumé, meaning their experiences and capabilities can be attractive and so can the prospect of mutual financial stability/exponential growth.
The first thing I see it's generally the body, then the eyes/smile, then I learn a bit about resume and wallet and final thing, the most important, the Mind (and soul).
Their face and body causes the initial attraction, but then it's all mind after that. If their values are completely different to mine then I'll find them repulsive no matter what they look like