Is it sad that ive come here to give my life more purpose?

I've been finding Facebook so "yawn" boring for a while.
I've come here as a goal to hopefully fill a void of the lack of friends and social connections with people that i am constantly lacking in my life.
Well, I guess I've answered my own question. It's sad that I've had to go to this extent to reach out to complete strangers to try and fill a void that probably won't be filled. But oh well.

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Just to offer you a shred of my own experience, if you have a void inside you, other people will not be able to fill it. Not ever. You have to fill that with making your own self feel good about yourself.

I know that there are times when we all just feel like we NEED someone or something and we don't even know who, or what.

I have filled that empty spot, (in myself), in the past by getting out there and helping other people. It's unbelievable how good it used to make me feel to help someone else.

I am older than you are, so I have done a LOT of helping. I have worked as a volunteer in a drug rehab live-in facility for mothers with children, I have worked in a homeless shelter for families with children, (If children are present they are not dirty, dangerous places), I have volunteered at the food pantry associated with the same homeless shelter, and I have volunteered at Santa's workshop at the same shelter, sorting donations.

I have volunteered at my local senior center as a receptionist, worked with the elderly, specializing in Alzheimer's and dementia, and I have also worked at my church helping people move and pack, helping people clean, and helping sick people by bringing them dinner.

Every time I did one of those things I felt a rush. It was like I needed so much to be needed, and it wasn't always a net positive result, because some of the people I helped just really sucked...but it still made me feel good about myself.

You might want to try that out. See if there is a small volunteer opportunity at your library, and see if that helps fill the gap in your soul.