Why? I need to get it together...

watch a show about people losing weight to get inspired. use music to motivate once started. expect it to suck at first. buy magnesium flakes before you start to take soothing baths during the beginning. don't diet the same every day. restrict calories for a few days, resume calorie intake for a day, then keep alternating. this will help you bypass all plateaus. get all your calories from food and none from drinks, except protein drinks like milk that count as food. i also take l-lysine (an amino acid) to support muscle gain and prevent muscle loss. it also makes the actual workouts easier. but it's up to the individual and health care provider to decide what medications/supplements are right for them. the main thing to lose weight is restricting calories intermittently, but the best way to look good, feel good - mentally and physically, and put your overall metabolism into gear by building muscle is exercise.

starting out, one exercise i highly recommend, esp for women, is bridges. they build your core in a way that supports doing other exercises without getting injured.