Apart from looking in a mirror, how do you see yourself!

Why? Do you have a little charity in how you see yourself? Are you bigoted about how you think people should react to you? Are you honest with yourself, and how? Do you have a high opinion of yourself, why?

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Peppa · 31-35, F

I see myself physically appealing to a small amount of people, I'm not ugly I just don't fit into the media's description of beauty especially in the UK. That makes me more likely to be singled out, as"exotic" or "punished" depending on the beholders eyes.
I don't like these views of how people see me because what they see is merely skin deep. There is a soul with a lot of burden but equally a lot of love to give. I beat myself up daily for not being stronger and letting people get the better of me. But as defeatist as that may be I then try and pick myself up. Stupid ay. Usually it's one or the other, but maybe that's why I'm so "grounded" I have experienced nearly all the emotions on the spectrum but seem to reside on the lower mood side from the years of bashing. Talk to me and I'd be pretty honest like I am here today.
I was told by 2 exs that I have a high opinion of myself, because I expect nothing but the best from my partner. Cheeky ay!
I don't think so, I know what I can bring to the table, that's not currently financial, but the rest I have a lot to offer, I'm also willing to learn but most importantly try if I think it'd worth it. If I'm with someone that's got another woman, or not contributing to the emotional well-being for both of us that person is not worth trying with.
Even if they have lots of cash or good in bed... I deserve more. Very long but I hope that explains

IzzyCastro · 26-30, F

Each of us has some kind of flaw, but over expecting to be accepted has contributed to the yawning gap between the sexes. Men aren't happy having to have everything and being prepared to share it or give it to us because in so doing they can have us, sexually speaking. We bring a body to the table, which God gave us, but they have to have a bank balance, gained through hard work and sweat. Then once we have caught them, for want of a better word, ensnared, we want them to change, not drive a van or wear work clothes even though they are constituent parts of who they are, because we have decided the income of the household is middle class not working class. And we don't want our neighbours to see us as workers, but betters...

Peppa · 31-35, F

@IzzyCastro: perhaps, that's true. But using your example if this same Man wishes to take you to a fancy restaurant and expects you to dress up is it acceptable he turns up in his work clothes or old clothes?
Relationships require equal give and take, whatever you expect from your partner you should be prepared to match and if you can't match you find a agreeable compromise.

IzzyCastro · 26-30, F

@Justlilyg: if he doesn't own any dress up clothes, as long as he is tidy, it should be ok. To me, I remember my first date with Jordi, he turned up in skateboarder clothes and I wore an expensive mini dress. It's part of his identity to be dressed as he is.

Peppa · 31-35, F

@IzzyCastro:and good for you. Neither of you requested anything other than the person being there. Which is the point I'm trying to make. No one should make any demand in there partner they should mutually respect each other and find comfort in them being there for one another.