My brother told me he got a girl pregant what do I do
A couple of days ago my younger brother was in my room I asked him what he wanted. He said that he got this girl he met a party pregnant. I don’t know what to do
26-30, F
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Mamapolo2016 · F
Your brother is pretty young. I would hope he’s already scared.
Try hard to resist the temptation to make this too easy for him. It’s as good a time as any to help him see he can’t go waving that thing around with no consequences. Make sure he understands that if she keeps the baby, that one night of fun will probably have him paying child support until his mid-thirties.
Since you are his only available parent, you have to help him learn the right lesson now. Good luck.
Try hard to resist the temptation to make this too easy for him. It’s as good a time as any to help him see he can’t go waving that thing around with no consequences. Make sure he understands that if she keeps the baby, that one night of fun will probably have him paying child support until his mid-thirties.
Since you are his only available parent, you have to help him learn the right lesson now. Good luck.
bijouxbroussard · F
@Mamapolo2016 I love the way you have of just breaking things down to their core. I bet lots of people seek your advice in rl.
Mamapolo2016 · F
@bijouxbroussard It’s usually easy to see what someone else should do. It’s when the troubles are your own it gets harder. 🙄
bijouxbroussard · F
@Mamapolo2016 That’s very true, isn’t it ? Ah, well. 😏
hlpflwthat · M
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@MistressesJanet no legal guardians whatsoever? Or are you his legal guardian?
MistressesJanet · 26-30, F
Yes I am @StayGold
@MistressesJanet sorry that your parents aren't around..
So this might be tough on you....first they need to decide whether or not they're keeping it. Then how to go about it..If they decide to abort, both try to support her if she wants..as well as him.
If they keep it, he needs to be responsible. So helping him find a part time job, save, and go on with school as that is still important.
Just try to lead him on the right path, and support them as much as you can. This is going to be hard regardless of their route..
So this might be tough on you....first they need to decide whether or not they're keeping it. Then how to go about it..If they decide to abort, both try to support her if she wants..as well as him.
If they keep it, he needs to be responsible. So helping him find a part time job, save, and go on with school as that is still important.
Just try to lead him on the right path, and support them as much as you can. This is going to be hard regardless of their route..
Mamapolo2016 · F
MistressesJanet · 26-30, F
5 years younger @Mamapolo2016
Canicu69 · 70-79, M
@janet
Not sure if you are being honest after reading your posts... most are pretty far out. BUT.......
This is serious business, if I were you and you are his guardian, I would talk to the girl (how old is she, did they meet first, or are they dating) and see what her intentions are. If it is to keep, or to abort you need to set up a meeting with her parents, her, your brother and yourself. Make notes of options and be honest and out front. Between the the five of you, you should come to an agreement. That needs to be stuck to. I would also consider they be tested DNA to see if he really is the father. Not putting her down in anyway but I think it needs to be brought up
Not sure if you are being honest after reading your posts... most are pretty far out. BUT.......
This is serious business, if I were you and you are his guardian, I would talk to the girl (how old is she, did they meet first, or are they dating) and see what her intentions are. If it is to keep, or to abort you need to set up a meeting with her parents, her, your brother and yourself. Make notes of options and be honest and out front. Between the the five of you, you should come to an agreement. That needs to be stuck to. I would also consider they be tested DNA to see if he really is the father. Not putting her down in anyway but I think it needs to be brought up
MistressesJanet · 26-30, F
@Canicu69 no they didn’t know each other I’m in the process of setting up a meeting with her family thank you for your advice
flashywords · 36-40, F
bijouxbroussard · F
@flashywords Even if the cons outweigh the pros for him she will decide what happens.
flashywords · 36-40, F
@SW-User ... they might want to keep the baby.
SW-User
@flashywords Good for them but personally I feel its a bad decision
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
he should talk to the girl and find out her plans.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
how old is he
MistressesJanet · 26-30, F
16@NiftyWhite
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
@MistressesJanet i think some other posters had the right idea - go with him to tell your parents. let them handle it from there.
whateverhappens · 26-30, F
shouldve said "yay"
SW-User
Not your fault
bijouxbroussard · F
MistressesJanet · 26-30, F
I am @bijouxbroussard
bijouxbroussard · F
@MistressesJanet Best of luck. It’s not a great situation at this stage.