Okay I get it now-Ladies not liking being approached - Me and Tom had a gaggle of single mums guessing our names, smelling our aftershave and chat
Neither “thank you but I’m married” or “we’re just here for a drink “ would make them give up.
It would have been flattering if they’d buggered off when asked. It prompted a moment of self reflection of me in my 20s trying to strike up a conversation with women. Oh well, you live and learn.