Huge pet peeve

If Im going somewhere and I tell you that you can come along if youd like, do not ask "Do you want me to come?" .....Tf was the point of me saying "You can come if you want to"??? If i didnt want you to come i wouldn't have said anything at all. But im not going to force you to come if you dont want to, ehich is why i said "if you want to" That does not mean make me choose between you going and not going 🙄🙄🙄🙄Im not saying shit anymore. You cant be this indecisive of a person for something as simple as tagging along with someone to go shopping.

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dirge · M

I'd assume it to mean 'I'll go if you want me to, e.g. if there's something specific you want me to be around for, but I kinda don't want to'. I suppose I can understand being annoyed with it, but I'd likely be guilty of doing it, myself.

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

Maybe they weren't being indecisive as much as they were just wanting affirmation that you actually wanted their company. Rather than one of those socially awkward invites that only come from wanting to be inclusively polite. "You can come along if you like" isn't exactly the most decisive wording for an invite.

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SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

@DarkWishes I wasn't aware that this was an interaction between a couple. That's definitely a different dynamic because the hope is at that point you have a little understanding when it comes to each other. My thinking was more from interactions with an acquaintance.

DarkWishes · F

@SpectralMourning Thats fair, i didnt specify, my bad. Im all pregnant and annoyed 🤣

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

@DarkWishes Wishing you less annoyance and some peace for the rest of the day.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

After I learned about this "let's go out for a cup of coffee sometime" which in some cultures allegedly doesn't mean that they want to have coffee with you, it doesn't really surprise me if someone wants another assurance.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Elessar British people say it's some meaningless small talk or polite talk or something like that. I mean..wtf? Never heard about it before but seems like autistic or "autistic" people complain about it as something they take literally. Um..? How else am I supposed to take it?

Here nobody would invite you to go out unless they really mean it. Possibly because the one who invites usually pays. 😆

Elessar · 31-35, M

@CrazyMusicLover British and coffee, that's why. If they mean it they would invite you for tea 🙂‍↔

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Elessar Ah! 😆

deathfairy ·

This is true. Like ppl wanna be begged, just be honest, yes or no.

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