Huge pet peeve

If Im going somewhere and I tell you that you can come along if youd like, do not ask "Do you want me to come?" .....Tf was the point of me saying "You can come if you want to"??? If i didnt want you to come i wouldn't have said anything at all. But im not going to force you to come if you dont want to, ehich is why i said "if you want to" That does not mean make me choose between you going and not going 🙄🙄🙄🙄Im not saying shit anymore. You cant be this indecisive of a person for something as simple as tagging along with someone to go shopping.

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SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

Maybe they weren't being indecisive as much as they were just wanting affirmation that you actually wanted their company. Rather than one of those socially awkward invites that only come from wanting to be inclusively polite. "You can come along if you like" isn't exactly the most decisive wording for an invite.

DarkWishes · F

@SpectralMourning Thats not how that works in adult world. Not everything needs to be some super loving touchy feely bonding activity. Errands need to be run regardless. His attendance doesn't change the fact that im gonna go complete these errands. Were not that kind of couple. Its his day off so i gave him the option to do what he wishes.

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

@DarkWishes I wasn't aware that this was an interaction between a couple. That's definitely a different dynamic because the hope is at that point you have a little understanding when it comes to each other. My thinking was more from interactions with an acquaintance.

DarkWishes · F

@SpectralMourning Thats fair, i didnt specify, my bad. Im all pregnant and annoyed 🤣

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

@DarkWishes Wishing you less annoyance and some peace for the rest of the day.