I Am Annoyed

My mom complains nonstop about my dad. Im so tired of hearing it. 90% of the things she says to me is complaining about my dad. 5% is criticizing me in some way. Oh my God I wish she had a job so she could just divorce him but she doesn't want to work. You chose to and continue to choose to be with him, so stop complaining every 5 seconds. Or else get a job and leave him.

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JBird · F

That's the same reason why I don't want to live with my father. He lost his job and he's living off from the money his parents made. He's jealous of my mother being too attractive for him and she was better at studies that he didn't let her have a job. He spend days irritating her calling ugly and complaining his life would be better if he hadn't married her and then beating her if she talked back.

In the end, she divorced him and moved away along with my siblings. He then began to trash talk about them so bad, I left him too.

You just have to ignore them because all those negative vibes will get you eventually.

Ananke · 26-30, F

@JBird Some of my mom's reasons to be upset with him are valid like how he forces her to stay up past her bed time watching shows he likes she has no interest in and will not talk to her or interact at all just sits there playing on his phone but if she tries to look at her phone or read a book he snaps that she is not socializing and that is not allowed. But some of the reasons she gets upset with him (he...helps out around the house? Does the dishes?) are just dumb.

Regardless it really does wear on me like you say. I already had to set boundaries with my dad because he was using me as a therapist and forcing me to sit late at night when I was exhausted while he would just dump on me about job problems, marital problems, everything problems. I basically just stopped coming home when he'd ask me to and only now come over when everyone else is around so he cannot "trap" me.

I'm probably just going to come home less and less. But I like to see my siblings and I worry for my moms health. And I do like seeing my dad too, just not on his terms.

JBird · F

@Ananke I say, tell them to see a therapist rather depending on someone like you who clearly needs a life. They're adults, they should know better than to let you interfere in their marriage.

Get a job, avoid talking about their relationship issues. They can't bother you much if you are committed to something

Ananke · 26-30, F

@JBird Yes I am looking and applying everywhere I can. My mom has a therapist but I don't think has been talking to her since she switched to telephone sessions due to the pandemic. (My mom doesn't like talking on the phone) My dad would never do anything like that or marriage counseling which is kind of exhausting because he needs it so damn bad.

I just can't wait until I can start my life.

JBird · F

@Ananke my dad refused therapy too. That's one reason why my mother left him.

I hope you will get a new job. 😇