Talk about the end or no

I'm visiting with my dad, he's so weak from cancer, he can barely talk every couple hours. I have not been talking about Heaven or him leaving earth in any way. I know he's sad and nervous of how aggressive this cancer is. Should I say You'll always be with us? I did last week in passing quickly, but I want to say it again. He could pass any day. Or just hold his hand and say we love you???

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Boeing · 36-40

You are going through such a hard times, thank you for sharing with us...it gives us warmth, sadness and insight. That is about nearing the end isn't it...you grow in the feeling of loss and you grow in compassion too... These period is so dense, that things are transformed, words are transformed ..as long as you are there that is already enough.
Maybe you could put a song for him to listen, you can ask him if he'd like to listen to some particular songs..
You could even read to him something, I am not sure about that, but maybe...

I have accompanied an older friend to his dying and a relative of his that couldn't be present, his son actually, send a letter and I read it to him.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Boeing Ty friend 🌟I've been holding his hand, playing soft music too. And he even watched a movie for ten minutes earlier. That was big. I truly hope he can live even a couple more days. I just want to tell him he's not truly leaving this world.

Boeing · 36-40

@Coralmist yes I understand... and at the same time you need to let him go, you know... Give him time to reflect, to slow down and prepare. Do not worry that he is not much communicative, nor try to keep him in this world, he needs to slow down for his transition to be smooth..to hover in the in between... I know it is incredibly hard, my heart goes out to you. Reading your words I feel how he receives your love and he received the message how he is and have been much loved and that is the most incredible gift you've offered him..
I hope what I am sharing is okay and not too much..

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Boeing Yes its really hard letting go. Out of both parents at least I could ask him advice sometimes. I can't ever do that with my. Mom. So this is difficult 😞 Ty for your words♥