Talking about negative topic with cancer patients?
I'm not sure whether to bring up the horrible pain my dad let me go through. He' has weeks left to live, we learned last week. It's a very rapid advance cancer😔
I've been very positive with him since he began feeling ill two months ago.
I help him, get him what he needs, try to laugh, give him extra snacks he likes. But that pain from years ago was never resolved. I experienced extreme debilitating abuse daily as a child , into my 20's from my psychopath mother. I have
crippling PTSD now from it. He would laugh when I cried many years ago, after she'd bully me or scream or threaten me. To laugh at my pain?🙁That's horrible plus for years would deny her assaults.
My sister wanted to tell him how she felt too, and she said This affected her entire LIFE. But on the other hand I know he's suffering. And if the empathy I've grown to have tells me anything, it's never add to someone's suffering...it's very hard even thinking of doing that. I guess I could mention it in passing but not stay on the topic. I do want him to feel calm and positive as much as possible.
But we may need to ask if he'd like to be buried or cremated..another sad topic. Is that ok to bring up?
I've been very positive with him since he began feeling ill two months ago.
I help him, get him what he needs, try to laugh, give him extra snacks he likes. But that pain from years ago was never resolved. I experienced extreme debilitating abuse daily as a child , into my 20's from my psychopath mother. I have
crippling PTSD now from it. He would laugh when I cried many years ago, after she'd bully me or scream or threaten me. To laugh at my pain?🙁That's horrible plus for years would deny her assaults.
My sister wanted to tell him how she felt too, and she said This affected her entire LIFE. But on the other hand I know he's suffering. And if the empathy I've grown to have tells me anything, it's never add to someone's suffering...it's very hard even thinking of doing that. I guess I could mention it in passing but not stay on the topic. I do want him to feel calm and positive as much as possible.
But we may need to ask if he'd like to be buried or cremated..another sad topic. Is that ok to bring up?
