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Chemo, vs. nothing?

My dad, who was diagnosed last week with an aggressive form of cancer, Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma, has a choice of low dose chemotherapy or no treatment. They do not recommend the low dose currently, Bec even low dose "may" cause infection that can sometimes be fatal. They said hes very compromised being a stroke victim.
But they said we can always get another oncologist who would be ok with doing treatment. It can potentially eradicate much of the cancer.

OR, the option is to not treat it and go into palliative care. I asked how long he might have, they said anything from several weeks to a few months 🙁 My dad initially refused treatment, but after we discussed further, he said hed like to try treatment, and if hes too ill he'll stop.
What might you choose /hope for a loved one? (Of course it's their actual choice overall)
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Rabbit420 · 70-79, M
In situations like this I have found that most people, even if it's subconsciously are more concerned with their feelings and more worried about their grief than the actual patient. Families force their loved ones into painful and debilitating treatments in order to keep the "patient" alive so that they don't have to suffer the grief or the loss. People force their loved ones to be kept alive on respirators in hopes that they may recover or a cure may be found even when they are brain dead and they've been told that there is absolutely no chance for recovery. We end up making our loved ones go through a great deal of pain and suffering just because we don't want to go through the pain and suffering of losing them. This is why all these decisions should be left to the patient no matter what, as long as they are mentally capable of making that decision!!!