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Chemo, vs. nothing?

My dad, who was diagnosed last week with an aggressive form of cancer, Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma, has a choice of low dose chemotherapy or no treatment. They do not recommend the low dose currently, Bec even low dose "may" cause infection that can sometimes be fatal. They said hes very compromised being a stroke victim.
But they said we can always get another oncologist who would be ok with doing treatment. It can potentially eradicate much of the cancer.

OR, the option is to not treat it and go into palliative care. I asked how long he might have, they said anything from several weeks to a few months 🙁 My dad initially refused treatment, but after we discussed further, he said hed like to try treatment, and if hes too ill he'll stop.
What might you choose /hope for a loved one? (Of course it's their actual choice overall)
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FreddieUK · 70-79, M
It is very much as others have all agreed, his choice. I would never choose FOR a loved one. When my mother was very ill towards the end of her life (93) she had made it clear to us, her children, DNR and minimal intervention was her desire. Had she been 73, her decision would probably have been the same, Death held no fear: indeed she looked forward to it for a few years before her passing. Personal philosophy, the amount of discomfort to be tolerated and the care on offer are all unique to each person. I hope these coming months will offer a good quality of life for all of you involved not least your dad. 🙏
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@FreddieUK Thank you for sharing her experience. Yes so many factors to consider..your mom's absence of fear is admirable 🌻 It is definitely his choosing, we just presented all the facts. He had more time to contemplate after the doctor talked to him about it. We will see what he chooses but at least he's considering possible treatment, even if he stops or even if he doesn't do it after all, he's considering it.