Swap wife - first time with couple

We are planning a wife swap. Full swap. All are consenting. However the ladies have both made a request to get to know the gents first.
They know each other well but not on that level, just as friends. They need alone time with couples swapped, not to do anything but just to kinda get to know each other more personal. So coffee dates are out ofnthe question but maybe something similar whereby after they can have a few moments just alone and more personal.
The experts amongst us can share some idea or suggestion

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katydidnt · 61-69, F

If swapping is as claimed just for sex, and "All are consenting," I might safely assume each of you is already sexually attracted to your prospective playmate. So why the "get to know yous" before bedtime?

My concern: the ladies feel themselves weak to resist if things trend past "just sex," that they'll become smitten and end up preferring their FWB life. Then the complications multiply. The meetings wouldn't be foreplay, they'd be vetting sessions to ease their concerns about infatuation or even falling in love. Good for both the wife and her maybe "other man," who should share the same anxiety.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@katydidnt the comment is always, be careful what you wish for.

rhouse · 56-60, M

This sound perverted but get straight to the sex. This isn't a relationship, it is sex. Creating a relationship will only cause problems in the future.

BigBulge · 41-45, M

@rhouse YES. This is exactly the correct advise.

BigBulge · 41-45, M

My live-in girl friend and I have had LOTS of experience attending swingers parties where the sex is totally anonymous, and I highly recommend that you guys talk your spouses into dropping their clothes and getting to it. Talking it to death will just ruin it for you.

JFinch · 41-45, F

It's summer; have a picnic.

Tahitiangrandma · 61-69, F

Why just why? It's bad enough about the sex with a stranger part? But you want the people to actually know about each other risking caring about another person other than the one you supposed to be with. Because what you are proposing is a date in all actuality dating leads to liking then hopefully loving someone. You are in essence giving the milk the cow the everything away. Are you all just done with each other and this is a way to end it or something? Because this is definitely how things end. No need to interview beforehand if one doesn't want the action or participation in the act they shouldn't do it. That can and should be figured out rather quickly without needing a get to know you session

Threepio

Separate lunch dates. Each woman should be taken to a leisurely lunch by the prospective partner.

For eating, and conversing.... nothing else.

BigBulge · 41-45, M

The prospective girls "getting to know" the prospective men totally kills the thrill of anonymity.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

Makes sense. Be careful what you wish for.

caccoon · 36-40

@deadgerbil

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