Why is it so difficult for adults to date

try going to a place that interests you...you might meet an interesting guy there.

Ages ago, I used “Match”. It’s a paid site so you tend to get people that are more serious.

In my profile I also stipulated what I was looking for. A long term relationship (LTR) was important to me. I found the dating process pretty easy. The site(s) allow you to cull through prospects. From there, I’d text for a bit before a date just to be sure it was worth going out.

I dated 4-5 women over the course of about three months. One I became serious with and am currently married to.

It can work. Keep the faith. 😊

I’m reading with great interest, as it has become an issue. My lifestyle aligns with more your age than those of my age. Women my age often tell me to grow up and I’m like have to grow old but not up!

Join a club or other group of people who do things you enjoy. You could even join a group that does things you have never tried, then you can ask the men who you fancy to help with whatever it is.

Maybe go to singles only holiday cruise

Its finding someone thats compatible...on both sides. We know what we want and desire due to our life experience. Its like looking for gold....you hsve to dig thtough a lot before you find the genuine thing. Dont despair...just keep hunting.

It’s a process and takes time to know each other. In this days of instant gratification, many don’t want to invest time and efforts it needed. Then it’s uncertainty about what they want. Sometimes many bad experiences makes hard to trust others.
But there are some real people who do like to find good friend, companion and partner. Just needs patience to find and meet one.

I think it’s especially tough for older folks who have been raised in a dating world very different from today’s world. Good luck!

A lot of the available single men have low self esteem and/or are afraid of women, or have lost the love of their life.

It also may be that you are being too picky or don't come across as approachable. Or, you may be too beautiful and men don't think they'd have a chance.

I imagine it means actually meeting a lot of people till you find one like that.

It’s hard to imagine how dating on apps is like for anyone over 30. It’s gotta be tough.

Might karma be protecting you.

We/they don't know how to meet you either. Nobody's meeting at all now, that's the problem. "Third" places are dead. You've got school and work to meet someone and meeting someone at work especially wreaks, so if you don't meet someone while you're in school, it's over usually.

Not sure, but I think there could be a high amount of emotional immaturity present and looking for the thrill or short term gratification.

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The dating apps are just another way to introduce people, nothing more. I'm surprised people our age wouldn't be looking for a long term relationship.