I am so glad that I'm not out there dating with no back up network of friends.

It's a harsh and sometimes pretty bleak state of affairs. It can be hard on your self worth, patience and energy levels. Trying to have multiple conversations and keep the interest up with strangers. It's really not natural. In real life, you would be putting your efforts into one person who had caught your eye, not 6.

I am tired and I really don't feel like I am getting anywhere. I feel apathy, and this should be exciting.

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kimmy159 · F

Hmm and is there a way to meet new people in real life? I’ve heared some friends say that it only happened by coincidence when they took up new hobbies or worked at a new place, went on organized group vacations or day trips, did some voluntary work and met people through that.
To put it short: new experiences makes you meet new people.
Suddenly they found someone it just clicked with.

Through apps you kind of miss that initial feeling/vibe with someone, you do build it through conversations over time, but like you said, it takes so much energy to feel that out with everyone you have a bit of liking for 😅

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Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@kimmy159 It's not a place I would choose to meet people lol, it was purely a girls night out.

kimmy159 · F

@Kuronekko Heheh of course! And you’re right, back in the days it was more of a social happening than it is now. Nobody seems to dare to randomly talk to eachother anymore

georgelong · 46-50, M

@kimmy159 I agree

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

You should just message a lot of people in the beginning to feel their vibe, and then you pick the most promising one to have full on discussions with. Dating isn't a multi-tasking process, you will wear yourself out and end up having terribly boring conversations 😅

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@MartinTheFirst I am at the beginning lol, I am messaging the ones I like. It's really hard to get most of these guys to have a decent conversation.

YoMomma ·

You don't have to talk to a bunch of guys.. just figure out which ones are realistic for you .. narrow it down

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@YoMomma yeah that involves talking to a wide variety, I'm afraid. You don't know unless you talk to people.

YoMomma ·

@Kuronekko you don't have to talk to them.. read their profile 😅

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HeadAboveWater · 31-35, M

Maybe you can ask a friend to set you up on a blind date?

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HeadAboveWater · 31-35, M

@Kuronekko thats very true - the big aspect of that is being able to trust that your friend knows you and what you like it.

Ideally, they'd set you up with someone that youre attracted to

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@HeadAboveWater well no one is offering so I guess it doesn't matter lol

HeadAboveWater · 31-35, M

@Kuronekko i suppose not 😕

SomeMichGuy · M

Well...yeah, that's hard and it sucks.

I hope it becomes fun soon.

georgelong · 46-50, M

You’re a nice looking woman. It will work out. Hang in there. Meanwhile do both. Hang with friends and date.

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