I am so glad that I'm not out there dating with no back up network of friends.

It's a harsh and sometimes pretty bleak state of affairs. It can be hard on your self worth, patience and energy levels. Trying to have multiple conversations and keep the interest up with strangers. It's really not natural. In real life, you would be putting your efforts into one person who had caught your eye, not 6.

I am tired and I really don't feel like I am getting anywhere. I feel apathy, and this should be exciting.

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kimmy159 · F

Hmm and is there a way to meet new people in real life? I’ve heared some friends say that it only happened by coincidence when they took up new hobbies or worked at a new place, went on organized group vacations or day trips, did some voluntary work and met people through that.
To put it short: new experiences makes you meet new people.
Suddenly they found someone it just clicked with.

Through apps you kind of miss that initial feeling/vibe with someone, you do build it through conversations over time, but like you said, it takes so much energy to feel that out with everyone you have a bit of liking for 😅

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@kimmy159 It is difficult. I noticed when I went out to a club with my daughter and her friends, people don't talk to each other. They stay in their little groups.

kimmy159 · F

@Kuronekko Try anything but clubs 😂

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@kimmy159 This isn't a typical club. I used to go there in my 20s and it's still pretty much the same. It even plays the same music lol. It was a fun night, I just couldn't help but notice the difference socially.

kimmy159 · F

The clubs are like real life dating apps (approach or not approach). It’s also not based on genuine interest in some way. Meeting people through other ways is often more authentic. 😁

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@kimmy159 It's not a place I would choose to meet people lol, it was purely a girls night out.

kimmy159 · F

@Kuronekko Heheh of course! And you’re right, back in the days it was more of a social happening than it is now. Nobody seems to dare to randomly talk to eachother anymore

georgelong · 46-50, M

@kimmy159 I agree