Online dating

From your 3 posts it sounds like......

1. You are lonesome so you probably are vulnerable.....desperate.
2. That is read easily by scammers in how you sound conversationally
3. That sets you up to be scammed......but then you seem surprised by that.

Try actual conversation......face tro face...........with a person you can SEE and KNOW is an actual woman.........with actual interests in you. And let what happens...happen.........slowly.

On line is meant to be quick, much like scrolling through candidates you find interesting. There’s no reason to wait at all. Life is short. Have a good time while you’re looking for Miss Right.

Be direct. Be intentional. Don’t drag things out long periods of time. Everything can be right over the internet and on the phone but in person the chemistry may be off. It’s best to find that out sooner than later. You have to be upfront about what you’re after and what you bring. There will be many false starts. Be patient. This takes time

U don't know if she is a she

A few days. Exchange some messages, get her #, if she wont give you her # after talking for a bit don't bother. If she wont give you that she certainly wont meet up in person.

Does she live close enough to you for a face-to-face meeting over coffee to be feasible?

1 month max. If not good. Move on.