From your 3 posts it sounds like......
1. You are lonesome so you probably are vulnerable.....desperate.
2. That is read easily by scammers in how you sound conversationally
3. That sets you up to be scammed......but then you seem surprised by that.
Try actual conversation......face tro face...........with a person you can SEE and KNOW is an actual woman.........with actual interests in you. And let what happens...happen.........slowly.