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Do you think a 20 year guy is too young for a 29 year old female?

What are your thoughts?

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ratpaws · 18-21, F

i have seen similar couples several times so i dont see an issue anymore unless you were just dating a recent 18 y/o in which you have been talking since he was younger which it would raise me concerns

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@ratpaws My ex was 18.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

Nah. It works the other way too. A 20 year old woman can date a 29 year old man. Will it last? God knows but the thing to destroy relationships in my experience is not age, it's ignorance.

SlaveEt · 36-40, F

I personally doubt I'd be attracted to a 20 year old guy but if it works for them, more power to them. Do those that make you happy.

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cecile · F

i don't think so i have known quite a few bigger age gaps with excellent relationships it will depend on the couple

Gringo · 46-50, M

Nah. Y'all just can't drink wine together.

Lilymoon · F

short term no. Long term yep.

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@Lilymoon Why?

Gingerbreadspice · F

It’s better than 16 and 25 and a bit better than 18 and 27 but not as good as 30 and 39.

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WaafaS · 26-30, F

@Gingerbreadspice I like that age group.

Old51 · 70-79, M

@WaafaS then it was good for you. Why think about other people's view

Old51 · 70-79, M

@Gingerbreadspice sure you miss

Stephie · 22-25, F

Guys are on the average 2-3 years less mature than women of the same age. An actual age difference of 9 years as in your example would make it about 6 years in terms of maturity. Therefore, an age difference of 6 years is probably ok.

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Guardian

@Stephie not sure I would agree that this particular age gap is NOT significant!

Stephie · 22-25, F

@quietwhispers101 You can talk to me anytime when I am online. Sorry I missed you.

Stephie · 22-25, F

@Guardian You can have a fully functional couple with an age gap of 9 years. The problem may arise pretty soon though should they decide to have children. If they wait another 5-6 years, the woman will already be in her mid-thirties and it is stretching her biological clock a little too much. I would not feel comfortable with that constellation.

Guardian

Sexually? PERFECT! Mentally? Good Luck!

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@Guardian LOL

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

It depends on what they are seeking from the said 'relationship '

The 20 yr old is certainly above the age of consent so can be assured its fair game . What I dont like is older women that seek relationships with young boys below 18 ..

Adogslife · 61-69, M

I do. Men mature more slowly than women, so the maturity gap is actually larger than the numeric.

If it’s just a FWB situation, then the nine year gap doesn’t matter.

TartanTorpedo · M

Surely if both parties are happy then live and let live 👍

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Is 60 too old for a 29 yo

NativePortlander1970

@MarineBob Yes

BEENOV · M

@MarineBob No,

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

No. Commonalities and personalities are the keys to a relationship. Age only plays a small part and in those two areas.

Believe it or not my half brother married a woman 20 years younger than himself, had two kids and is still married after the kids graduated from college.

SW-User

The general rule is half your age plus seven, leaving the youngest age at 21.5. However, I personally think it's perfectly acceptable, as I've made a few platonic friends well into their 30s without feeling any age gap.

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@SW-User My ex was 18.

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

Depends on what you are looking for, and the life experience / maturity of the guy. But i would not bet on an enduring relationship with anyone who hasn’t developed a good sense of self and has lived enough life to know things.

Bartleby · 51-55, M

It depends. Usually a 29-year-old and a 20-year-old are in such different life stages. In most cases it probably wouldn’t work long-term but in a few cases it might.

Nicenlongnthick · 41-45, M

I was 18 and with a 39 uear old female

SaltnLime · 70-79, M

Yes. There is a huge difference in maturity and experience between 20 and 29. Definite red flags for this relationship.

Really · 80-89, M

@SaltnLime

There is a huge difference in maturity and experience between 20 and 29.

Sometimes one way, sometimes the other.

BohemianBabe · M

As long as they're both legal, age doesn't really matter. What matters more it stuff like where each person is in their lives.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

Nope, you both can still have a family together if all works out. Just watch the maturity level of that 20 year old.

Mmiker · 46-50, M

Depends on one’s maturity.

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Mmiker · 46-50, M

@WaafaS did you appreciate him while being together?
One can act more mature than their age?

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@Mmiker We hit it off well.

Mmiker · 46-50, M

@WaafaS There you go. Then age wouldn’t matter.

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Northwest · M

Too young for what?

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Northwest · M

@WaafaS And what do you hope to get out of dating him?

WaafaS · 26-30, F

@Northwest A relationship.

Northwest · M

@WaafaS When I was 20, I dated women in their 40s, but we did not exactly have relationships. So it depends on the kind of relationship you're looking for.