When you date someone...

Do you consciously (or subconsciously) think about what you offer, or "bring to the table "?
Or do you just go in hoping you will simply click/have fun?
I think I feel I dont bring that much to the table, so I get super nervous, and feel who would want someone with the anxiety I have?😢🌺💗

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

It's honestly one of the things that has held me back from trying to take advantage of my poly status and asking someone else out. I do not feel that at this time in my life I have enough to offer to be appealing. That being said, if you are actually going on dates you get further along than I do. So go ahead and enjoy the date and be yourself and let the other person decide what they think. It sucks to be shut down by people who think you deserve better than them. If that's the case and they are happy with you, why is that so wrong?

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@ViciDraco Im not going on dates, im petrified. They m a y seem to enjoy my humor or me in that initial stage, ( of meeting me or flirt text etc) but I fear Im not giving them a full person. They dont know of my anxiety that affects a lot of my life...I feel like Id be a burden if I cant do all the social things they will probably want. 😟