I’ve been on a few first dates where I friend zoned my date.

I think it’s important to have chemistry, but I also feel like it’s important to examine the situation where we feel ‘chemistry’. A lot of times what feels like chemistry is actually our issues being activated and humans are attracted to the familiar in subtle ways,.

Not saying this applies to you, but just to provide an example: someone with abandonment issues goes on a date and gets all excited because they felt chemistry; they have some good conversation and fun, but on an unconscious level what got them actually reeled in was the low key aloof behavior of their date, which pressed a bunch of buttons. Things don’t work out with this guy. Jenny goes on a bunch of other dates ‘not feeling chemistry’ and when she does feel chemistry with someone it always goes about the same, but Jenny gets so hyper-focused on wanting to ‘feel chemistry’ that she never recognizes the problem. Same thing goes for people who have commitment issues. They unconsciously investing in people who have a high probability of it not working out. Etc


This issue can appear in all sorts of different ways.

I know the feeling (But I have never dated. I have lusted, though. And crushed. But all one-sided.).

That is, I am more physically attracted to youth, yet young people can be annoying and immature.

But even if I were with a younger woman I fear I could not satisfy her physically. I fear that with every woman, to be honest. I may need some of those drugs you see on TV. The ones where each person has their own (side-by-side) bathtub and they hold hands. But who has that? Only the rich? Us poor folk would have to share. I cannot even fit well in one tub. She would have to sit on my lap. But that could be fun, especially when the drugs kick in!

"For daily use." But what about the night?

All night long.

She and I can also talk about chemistry. It is an interesting topic.

You need to be dating more than that.

When I was dating I just kept trying. Some worked out better than others. Some I was just only friends.

As to the type. Well... that's up to you. Yet remember the more you limit yourself, the fewer dates you will go out on.

Limiting yourself really is a double edge sword. It can both help as well as cut yourself.

Yet the more you date the higher the odds you will have of finding someone.

Of course there will be huge disappointments. That's life and true with anything you try.

I feel chemistry should come second to compatibility and its something that can be cultivated.

Sounds like you're being honest to yourself and them. Good for you, that's what you have to do. It may take some time, but if you keep doing what you're doing. You'll find someone.

i am really glad i dont have to deal with the insanity of dating anymore. i could write a book on the strange and weird dates i have been on. there were good ones too. i could write a different book on those. 😂

The only times I’ve been on any dates was when I was on holiday a couple of years ago (I went on tinder.) I got instantly friend zoned in a language I didn’t understand! I’ve just got together with people I know since that.

If it's a good date there may be some ass sucking🤔

If a woman friend zones a man it’s his own fault. It’s up to a man to show his masculine energy to make you crave him.

I do this also. I sometimes take them out though. Its just a good time for both of us.

You have too many desires

Most young men in here after reading this would say:
😜

Yep. Told you I was here for you. Ready now?😁

Are you a cougar?

So you've a cougar? 😜

Yes, dating is the pits.

Pick me marsbar

😔

One thing I have learnt when I friend zone women after meeting up is they do not like it at all lol

Many guys would love sucking ass too 🤭