I’ve been on a few first dates where I friend zoned my date.

Tbh, it’s difficult for me to become attracted to someone closer to my age. I did try a few times, but even if the conversation was engaging, I didn’t feel any chemistry. So then I’m put in that awkward situation of friend zoning them, & I feel shitty about it because they were hoping for something more.

Sometimes I think I should have at least tried a second date. I did with one guy who was four years younger than me. I went out with him twice and….nothing. I just got friend vibes. The other 3 older men only got one date.

I know how it feels when there’s chemistry, & unfortunately, it happens with younger men more often, but they don’t want the same things I do. And with the few I’ve tried to have a “relationship” with, it never worked out after a few weeks/months due to communication issues.

Dating sucks ass! 😄😂

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

You need to be dating more than that.

When I was dating I just kept trying. Some worked out better than others. Some I was just only friends.

As to the type. Well... that's up to you. Yet remember the more you limit yourself, the fewer dates you will go out on.

Limiting yourself really is a double edge sword. It can both help as well as cut yourself.

Yet the more you date the higher the odds you will have of finding someone.

Of course there will be huge disappointments. That's life and true with anything you try.

marsbar · F

@DeWayfarer We’ll see what happens in the future.