Is it weird if a guy said he is falling for u after the 1st date?

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Sociopaths and narcissists are quick to put the moves on people. It’s a red flag for relationships.

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@SW-User they want to play this game of “getting to know all about you” with all kinds of conversations where they gather information to manipulate. So they tell you they are falling for you. I have read that sociopaths and narcissists both are very good at it.

SW-User

@cherokeepatti I've been with one for sure and a couple that seemed to have strong traits.

Forgetmeknot · 41-45

@cherokeepatti this is what I was going to say. So I'd like to second this comment.

FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M

It might be kind of unusual, but I'm not sure it's necessarily "weird".

I met someone at a sporting event, we hung out a bit, shared a couple of drinks, I got her number and I went home. I called my best friend and told her that I'd just met the woman I was going to marry. Sometimes you just know.

Though, to be fair, I didn't tell the woman that for a couple of dates. I didn't want it to seem weird.

So... uh... on rethinking my answer, yes, maybe it is a little weird.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

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I think it's so funny given my love of Absolutely harsh Aggro tech music that alienates most people and how I DO Have street credit for being an Electronic body music nerd and fan as well as history nerd which BTW blend together well because the moment you get interested in BOTH you become interested in what INSPIRED the artist you listen to musically and start rewinding the clock and in my case all the way back to throbbing gristle who mind you FUCKING SUCKS in a lot of spaces but at least has a few very good songs.

Industrial sounds NOTHING like what it came out of today.

But all that aside the fact that I am willing now more so to own my love of this particular band linked above however ironic it is and how unlikely given how much I love to play around with the DARK gothic songs I mean I'm a full on Aggro tech fan boy who listens to fucking wumpscut for gods fucking sake.

which if you need context [youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii3XcNCY970&t=19s]

but it's true I ultimately play on both sides, a lot of what I listen to is the darkest shades of black imaginable and yet at the same time I surface for a lighter shade at times

I TRULY have two faces musically. [youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gq-4vIIJO30]

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BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

I would consider it not the proverbial red flag but more of a yellow one.

as in Slow down but don't Stop and run like hell.

Proceed with Caution, in other words. It could be a bad sign that he's just trying to manipulate you.

you don't yet know his motives for this confession.

Fluffybull · F

Yes. Very needy. Watch out he doesn't become demented stalker 😱

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MarieUK · 36-40, F

@BondGirl84 be careful, tread stealthily and not in heels

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@MarieUK random u said that, he wants e to wear heels! lol

MarieUK · 36-40, F

@BondGirl84 lol I think its possibly someone I've spoken with then

Ferric67 · M

Yes

SomeMichGuy · M

Was it cold & did he slip on some ice when he was coming to meet you?

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SomeMichGuy · M

@BondGirl84 There are people who don't "get" the notion of "coming on too strong". If the guy was not really great at "these kinds of things" (first dates), already, and the few years of much reduced interaction has exacerbated that and his social/sexual craving for companionship...maybe that's it.

Since he did not literally fall, maybe this explanation works better...

IDK. People are weird & relationships are hard.