Great questions! Before I was divorced any church, I walked into with the wife we were greeted and invited to join all kinds of committees and groups. When the wife said she would not go to church with me any longer because she was a non-believer, things changed, and then when the wife asked for a divorce so she could be with her soulmate. I could not be on any committees and was only directed towards divorcee groups. Changed churches multiple times for this damn reason alone, and I got tired of the astigmia of being divorced like it was a sin. The Good Lord gave three reasons in the bible allowing for a divorce.
1. Adultery
2. Abuse
3. Being unequally yoked to a non-believer.
So why when I was divorced by a woman that covered all three and not just one of the categories was, I treated like a broken sinful person. I could not even get on Christmas committees church usher or anything like that even the preacher who would hunt and fish with me could no longer do so or would not at a new church because I was divorced. They all loved my military training, and all welcomed my security provisional abilities though.
So, I quit going to churches and read my bible and study and pray on my own. I do not need the judgement of "Churchies" as I call them now.
And pray tell the horror of addressing my son's suicide as well. I dropped a serious You "F" ed up terribly and missed the needs of your member with sending me to your anger management courses with the death of my son through suicide and military Serices of my son and myself. It was a serious 45-minute angry hurt parent ass chewing sermon I delivered to both pastors.
