Are any of you neurodivergent and have difficulty fitting in at work?

I started a new job and ended up in a meeting where I was told that I was essentially wierd and that they didn't like when I worked too hard or made them feel like I could do their job better than them.

lol this happens often to me, so I am trying to figure out where I should work, so that I have something to do.

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rosyhills · 31-35, F

No, but I've never fit in at work either. Not on any job, and I've had several.

I've been lucky though to have at least one "work buddy" on every job. You know, a person who helps you get through the job.

I've thought alot about what type of job will fit my personality as well.

I am not antisocial, however I do not enjoy talking as much as other people do, especially when it's about small, unimportant things.

I'm not good in groups. I've been on work "teams" before, and have had people dislike or make fun of me, though indirectly , simply for being myself.

I am seeking a job where I work by myself for the most part. I am also seeking one with a hybrid schedule.

I feel like that would work for me.

What industry do you want to work in?

Avengiline · 22-25, F

@rosyhills unironically, social services

rosyhills · 31-35, F

@Avengiline That's not ironic, though I get what you mean. When I was in school, I didn't like telling people that I was interested in Social Work, for that same reason. They think it has to do with being "social" though the word itself relates to the functioning of society.

Edited to add, you should go for it. If you put together a list of wants/don't wants for a job, I'm sure you'll find it.
That's what I did, and it helped to narrow things down for me. I've had several interviews in the past months. I've turned some down. I want what I want and I'm doing what I can to have it.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

I actually advise against working too hard. Going above your station and doing too much is a bad thing for the team and your boss. Doing work well, devising processes and getting them written down will help everyone and assure your view of competency.

Working extra hours, skipping breaks and becoming objective oriented can be really mentally draining and come with certain expectations your boss simply can't meet like remuneration or extra leave. By means outside of their control of course. In my view, I get paid 8 hours a day to work so I do 8 hours of work. I priorities my objectives and know what I can drop.

Its super damn hard to but... It can be learned.

Motzu

You can work at NASA

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QueenandCrown · 41-45, F

@rosyhills My childhood dream was to become an astronaut..
Nowadays research or consulting

Avengiline · 22-25, F

@Motzu thanks, but they would need some kind of education aspect or recruitment for me to do that

Motzu

@Avengiline not necessarily, nearby me is a orbital engineering group in Pittsburgh, they sent a mooner lander (that failed) to the moon a month or two back. It's a private company who will hire who they want.

I'm barely in the autistic spectrum, usually just say I'm a INTJ. I avoid eye contact for the most part instinctively, stone cold unemotional face, very analytic. But as a guy that passes in the military or as a civilian as security. Women can't really pull off the unintentional intimidation factor stare (that's my thinking face). But I'm barely in the spectrum and most people wouldn't notice it in me.

666Maggotz ·

I am. Life gets easier when you decide to not care about what neurotypical people want. Don’t be afraid to be mean, that’s my motto. I would have told them to kick rocks.

Avengiline · 22-25, F

@666Maggotz I was specifically told not to do that.

666Maggotz ·

@Avengiline by who?

OverTheHill · 56-60, M

You sound like a person who is a hard worker with a good work ethic. Some people never want to rise above the level of mediocrity. I hope you have much success in your future.

TempuraShrimp · 26-30, M

Im not neurodivergent but I don't fit in at work well because im one of the oldest there. im 28 and most i work with are either in highschool or under 25.

Onestarlitnight

I just adjust my work level to be equal to what everyone else is doing, I generally work faster than everyone but I found that it making people uncomfortable so I just slowed myself down, now people are happier with me

accidentprone · 26-30, M

You need to pursue management, if you have the insight on how to do things better or faster, then you should become the boss
Instead of them pushing you down, you could pull them up.

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Avengiline · 22-25, F

@wildbill83 lol they complained about me over helping people. lol 😂 they seemed informed enough, but geez that’s a ridiculous thing to complain about

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