Standing on my groin, need help.

@Ceinwyn I've only got one. Kept it subsided for years, but its coming back, and nonidea how to handle it before it gets me into more trouble.

@LeopoldBloom how did you manage to resign from it? What do you do when you get urges, or s strong desire?

@Alakazam I have no hope of fulfilling it in real life, so I've just learned to live with that. RP with strangers on the internet helps. I've done that with people here on SW, also on Reddit and Kik. It's not ideal but it's better than nothing.

Even just talking about it helps, although unless the other person has a general interest in fetishes, it either makes no sense or grosses them out.

@LeopoldBloom i really appreciate this advice. I do think talking about it will help. At the same time, i guess i'll always have a lust for it. Because of the situation and how my wife found out about it, i feel like i have no more dark secrets in me, so im hoping i can just talk about and express myswlf to my wife. Not sure if this will help my relationship or hinder it. At the moment she keeps telling me i have a sick mond and need help. Hoping it gets better from here. But thank you for your help and advice. 🥰

@spice1 see.. this is what i want to try, the wife has said if I do something and she doesnt know about it, she's cool. Shes even offered to book 2 women for me to do this. Ive said no to that, i said her and someone would be cool.

But the worst part is (this is about to sound like Jerry Springer), i had a moment of weakness and messaged her sister about this fetish. We had a chat and a laugh about it, i sent her what it was about (some videos etc (fully clothed people etc) about 4 years ago when she was living in a seperate country. And she just recently told my wife about it knowing that we're going through a tough time, even did a counselling session with us. She told my wife she felt guilty about it and had to tell her. I dont get why after 4 years whilst we're going through a difficult time she told her.

That aside.. finding the right person to do something is difficult.

@Alakazam don't know why she would do that other than to add more reason for you and your wife to split up permanently , if your wife was willing to set you up with 2 girls why didn't you take it? Is it also a fetish that your wife has to be involved?

@spice1 wife doesnt have to be involved, but i want her to feel wanted. But i saidno, because i keep thinking she is testing me.

The thing with the sister annoys me, i honestly think he wants us to break, so we sell our house and she can offer to buy it with her husband. I think to myself i should tell her husband the conversation i hd with her but then i realise thats petty.

@TheFragile it is weird, but apparently its not the weirdest thing. Trying to find a professional, but even thats screwing me over.

@Pretzel what do i do is the question.