Standing on my groin, need help.

I have this fetish of wanting light, petite women with nice feet to stand on my groin area. Im married, and my wife doesn't enjoy doing this, but she is also a bit heavy. I sometimes talk to other women about this and say i had a dream about them (even though it's not true), just to get a reaction and see what they say. I got caught out and now I'm in the dog house, which i get. But how can i get over this? I still want it so bad, but I've not done this for 13 years with anybody, and the fetish is coming back harder than ever. I need help.

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LeopoldBloom · M

It seems pretty harmless as long as you take the proper precautions to avoid injury. The problem is if your wife is too heavy to do this safely (or she doesn’t want to do it). I can see why she wouldn’t want you doing this with another woman.

You may have to just limit this to RP if that’s the case. My wife isn’t into participating in my fetish (not that I would want her to), and it would be wrong to do it with someone else, so I’ve resigned myself to just not doing it.

Alakazam · 41-45, M

@LeopoldBloom how did you manage to resign from it? What do you do when you get urges, or s strong desire?

LeopoldBloom · M

@Alakazam I have no hope of fulfilling it in real life, so I've just learned to live with that. RP with strangers on the internet helps. I've done that with people here on SW, also on Reddit and Kik. It's not ideal but it's better than nothing.

Even just talking about it helps, although unless the other person has a general interest in fetishes, it either makes no sense or grosses them out.

Alakazam · 41-45, M

@LeopoldBloom i really appreciate this advice. I do think talking about it will help. At the same time, i guess i'll always have a lust for it. Because of the situation and how my wife found out about it, i feel like i have no more dark secrets in me, so im hoping i can just talk about and express myswlf to my wife. Not sure if this will help my relationship or hinder it. At the moment she keeps telling me i have a sick mond and need help. Hoping it gets better from here. But thank you for your help and advice. 🥰