How to stop being attracted to someone because you know they'll never see you that way?
The friendzone is great with me, but I need the longing to bug off.
41-45, F
The right connection won’t leave you confused, staying without clarity only leaves you more attached to them.
This leaves you in the longing state, if you break it down and understand the attachment you have for them, you’ll be able to see they had nothing to offer you, if they did you wouldn’t be so confused.
We have to be honest with ourselves, why stay when the love is not reciprocated.
You deserve better, you deserve a love that makes you feel safe.
That kind of love isn’t safe, it’s confusing.
Love, real love won’t leave you questioning what it is, with the right one you’ll know because they are consistent and present and less space to wonder what if.
It’s the space between you that makes you more attached, real love won’t allow that void.
This leaves you in the longing state, if you break it down and understand the attachment you have for them, you’ll be able to see they had nothing to offer you, if they did you wouldn’t be so confused.
We have to be honest with ourselves, why stay when the love is not reciprocated.
You deserve better, you deserve a love that makes you feel safe.
That kind of love isn’t safe, it’s confusing.
Love, real love won’t leave you questioning what it is, with the right one you’ll know because they are consistent and present and less space to wonder what if.
It’s the space between you that makes you more attached, real love won’t allow that void.
EldritchFox · 41-45, F
@QuietReverie you are right, there's no point to hanging on if they don't feel the same. And I know they don't. If they did I'd know and knowing is the safety I definitely deserve at this point.
Thank you 🖤
Thank you 🖤
All that love you feel for them ...put it into you ...invest in you ...it may seem selfish but it's not ...taking care of your heart is primary ...invest in your interests...in things thst bring you joy instead of being around them ...put your time and attention into other things of value and interest
EldritchFox · 41-45, F
@chernobylplaygr0unds thank you 🖤
HumanEarth · F
Look, the fastest way to stop missing someone who doesn’t feel the same way is to give yourself some space. Its got tt be both emotionally and in person.
You’ve got to shift your mindset and start putting that energy into growing yourself and building new connections. The truth is, attraction fades, especially when you stop feeding it. With time and distance, it gets easier.
You’ve got to shift your mindset and start putting that energy into growing yourself and building new connections. The truth is, attraction fades, especially when you stop feeding it. With time and distance, it gets easier.
EldritchFox · 41-45, F
@HumanEarth it's so rare for me to be attracted to anyone. It's real and deep because that's where I look in people. I don't want to not be their friend, just want my heart to give up.
HumanEarth · F
