Why are bottoms complicated?

Why is it when i tell someone that am power-top they ghost me. I once told this gay friend of mine that am power-top and he ghosted me. And we've been in a relationship for over 2years but after I told him that he ghosted me

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Jessmari · 41-45

Your telling them you're an aggressive and controlling top in the bedroom. Some could red flag that as side step from abusive if they aren't into that.

SlowMo · 22-25, MNew

@Jessmari ,so should I tell them that am top or vers,and aren't most gay men intrested in PT guys ?

Jessmari · 41-45

@SlowMo I think it's just going to vary from one individual to the next. You could just go with top and see where it goes from there. I think many of them like the fantasy of a power top, but the reality could make them skiddish about it.

SlowMo · 22-25, MNew

@Jessmari ,Thanks for the advice. I guess next time i'll just say am top.

Jokekilla · 26-30, M

What kind of power top are you? Are you aggressive or just dominant when it comes to taking over the sexual experience? Some guys get pretty intimidated and want someone who is a top but, but not aggressive.

ArtieKat · M

we've been in a relationship for over 2years but after I told him that he ghosted me

I'm a bit confused: after 2 years together, how come your partner hadn't sussed your dominant streak, @SlowMo

WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M

Not everyone confirms to a role, and they find people who do as a bore.

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